BE Each Other

Yogi Bhajan

“No two people really know each other before marriage because it takes about seven years to know each other, another seven to understand each other, another seven to live with each other and another seven to enjoy each other.”

“Those who will just identify their identity into the oneness of each other, God shall serve them. God shall not only bless them; that's too little of a thing to ask for. God becomes the servant of those who amalgamate their egos and bring one identity out of the union of the two. They are such that God grants them the soul for which their generations will live forever. And that is how saints are born on the Earth.”

“There is no relationship between a male and a female unless both of them decide to work on each other, because both are polarities. You want a relationship which is totally romantic-and that doesn't exist. ”

“There is only one thing--that is amalgamation forever. Good and bad, great and small, all of it is in one pot now. In this you will find peace and tranquility.”

“Why are there quarrels between husband and wife? Because they have never tried to become one. They are still two who are living under one roof. They are still two who are sleeping in one bed. They are still two who are managing one home. They are still two; one is driving the car and one is sitting and sleeping on the side. But they have not yet become one. Marriage is when two become one. ”

“Try to understand marriage. It is a simple, unique situation. Where amalgamation takes place, a new metal comes out of the two. A new ego comes out of the two. A new identity comes of the two. And it is forever; it is not only for today and not tomorrow. Try to understand. Everything can come to an end. Even life can come to an end. But one thing even God cannot end: the desire to be one in each other. This desire even God cannot take away”

“There is no criterion in life that will carry a marriage, or satisfy the marriage, except your creative communication with the man you love.”

“Marriage is not to control each other; marriage is not to love each other, marriage is not even to live with each other. Marriage is to BE each other. Anything else is not marriage.”

“When you speak, stand behind it. Don't say what you don't mean, otherwise, you'll be the worst mean person. Don't say what you feel! Don't speak what you feel, speak what your consciousness allows you to speak.”