Troubling

One of the things that irks me is the mismatch of what people say and how they behave. For example taking a lift from the pool with a friend who drives like an angry speed demon. What's the rush? This is not an ambulance. My other friends hold annual new years parties with specific instructions: no perfume or deodorant due to the hosts severe asthma. But then they smoke dope constantly and frequently fly to Florence and go to Esalen. Did they send out the same instructions to Esalen, Air France, and the City of Florence? I know some other folks growing pot in a walled off room in their cellar. As if their very smart adult kids didn't know. What does this do to a family? The truth is dad went from perpetual drunkenness to a constant state of being stoned. Another family I know has a diagnosed bi-polar daughter. The mother drinks with the daughter acting like two valley girls talking about nail polish and their SUV Lexus'. What the hell is going on?