Abandon all Hope

 Yes if your parents are abusive , ignorant or neglectful get as far away from them as possible and start a new life without the baggage and negativity.  Yes. If you feel that way, there’s likely a good reason for it. 

I’m sorry for what ever you may be going through. Sometimes completely cutting ties is the best thing to do, even if it’s family.

Talk is cheap. Instead, stop seeing them, and no matter what, do not resume. It will take them about a year to get the idea and see you mean it, so you can’t screw up and make exceptions, or attend events where they are present.  

I have been free of toxic parents for years, and though it’s nice to have parents, it’s great not to have toxic ones. 

Be prepared for people to put pressure on you to see them, using tactics like guilting you, begging you, crying, etc. Don’t engage with that stuff. If they don’t cut it out, stop seeing them too.

  Some people are so scared of life without mommy and daddy that they treat you like a freak if you mention being parent-free. It’s better not to bring it up. Sometimes for expediency I just say that my parents are no longer with me. 

 Invest extra time in building relationships with people you like to avoid going through life feeling like people are missing.

  There will be times when you will feel real pain because someone else is having happy times with their parents and you’re not. Take some time to feel the sadness, then get on with your life. Those feelings only happen now and then, and are survivable.  

Don’t give in-laws details about your situation. It’s none of their business, and some are prone to unexpected meddling.

  During the first few years, it helps a lot if you can live at least 500 miles away—the further the better. 

Don’t let people de-legitimize your decision.

 Living without parents in your life is no different than any other serious decision you make to preserve your sanity and well-being, and odds are that only you fully comprehend the suffering you’ll experience if you go back. If you decide it’s right for you, nobody has the right to second-guess you. 

 If someone plays the anger card, and accuses you of being blinded with rage and craving reconciliation, just say something like, “Maybe I am,” and walk away.

They are the ones trying to manipulate you, not the other way around.  Sure, I’d like to have parents. But the people I am connected to are incapable of acting like normal and non-toxic people, so it’s not an option I have.

 I have met others in the same position, and we understand each other. I also meet a lot of people who are still being manipulated by horribly dysfunctional parents, and who are miserable because of it. Not everyone successfully escapes.