Sunday, June 23, 2024

Cool Gray Swim

It was overcast and cool yesterday but the water was still warm at the outdoor pool in Franklin. Only a few people were there, a mother sitting on the edge and her nine year old daughter and a mother and her son. I swam and after my shower I dressed in dry clothes. On my drive home I suddenly felt cold and my fingers turned pale yellow. I turned on the heat in the car. I had hot tea when I came home. I loved it.

Motivational Tricks

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The Plea: Can you describe this?

It's the birthday of the Russian poet Anna Akhmatova, born in a suburb of Odessa in 1889. She was a beautiful, fashionable, 22-year-old woman when she published her first collection of poetry in 1912. The book was filled with love poems inspired by her affair with the then-unknown Italian painter Amedeo Modigliani, and no Russian woman had ever written so frankly about love. Akhmatova became a celebrity overnight.

 But within a few years, life in Russia became much more complicated, and Akhmatova had a lot more to write about than love affairs. In her poem "In Memoriam July 19, 1914" — about the start of World War I — she wrote, "We grew a hundred years older in a single hour." After the Bolshevik Revolution, most writers and intellectuals tried to flee the country, but Akhmatova and her husband decided to stay. Her husband was shot in 1921 for allegedly participating in an anti-Bolshevik plot, and the following year, the government informed Akhmatova that she would no longer be able to publish her poetry.

She began working on translations and more or less stopped writing her own poems.

Then Akhmatova's son was arrested by the government. For 17 months, she went to the prison in Leningrad every day to try to get news about her son's well-being. There were crowds of other women there, doing the same thing, and one day a woman recognized Akhmatova as the formerly famous poet. Akhmatova later described the incident, writing, "A woman with bluish lips standing behind me … woke up from the stupor to which everyone had succumbed and whispered in my ear, 'Can you describe this?'"

That woman's question helped inspire Akhmatova to begin writing her 10-poem cycle "Requiem," which many Russians consider the greatest piece of literature written about Stalinist Russia. 

The Writer's Almanac



Grateful

Yesterday morning at 6:30 AM there was a blackout. A few neighbors poked their heads out to see if it was just their apartments or was it the whole neighborhood. For a brief moment we had community again, people chatting on porches and sidewalks grateful that the heat wave had passed, grateful that it wasn't their fault that the electricity went off.

A whole marriage fails inside a comma

 Novelists work in vast, open vistas, whole prairies of pages. Poets work in their tiny Dutch gardens, where a lot has to happen in very little space. This need for compression can lead to wonderful moments, where jarringly different realities are forced to exist side by side, as here: the speaker’s daughter was “married / in a fairy-tale wedding, divorced…” A whole marriage fails inside a comma. Barely a heartbeat between the dream and the disaster. More than anything we want to protect our kids from the world. But…it’s the world. There’s nowhere else to live. George Bilgere

Here’s a poem for today, June 23, 2024

Everything We Don’t Want Them to Know

by Maria Mazziotti Gillan

At eleven, my granddaughter looks like my daughter

did, that slender body, that thin face, the grace

 

with which she moves. When she visits, she sits

with my daughter; they have hot chocolate together

 

and talk. The way my granddaughter moves her hands,

the concentration with which she does everything,

 

knocks me back to the time when I sat with my daughter

at this table and we talked and I watched the grace

 

with which she moved her hands, the delicate way

she lifted the heavy hair back behind her ear.

 

My daughter is grown now, married

in a fairy-tale wedding, divorced, something inside

 

her broken, healing slowly. I look at my granddaughter

and I want to save her, as I was not able

 

to save my daughter. Nothing is that simple,

all our plans, carefully made, thrown into a cracked

 

pile by the way love betrays us.

 

From What We Pass On: Collected Poems 1980–2009, Guernica Editions, 2010.

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Saturday, June 22, 2024

Cracker Making

This afternoon was cracker making practice for my upcoming class. Luckily the heat dome lifted so using the oven was fine. 

I used olive oil and dark rye whole wheat starter and poppy seeds and sesame seeds added using tablespoon each. I adapted this recipe (link below).

I use a rubber spatula and then my fingers were ultimately the best tool to spread the batter thin over two 2 silicone mats. When I experimented I found that parchment wrinkled and was not as easy to separate to flip.  The baking mats are the ticket. When the crackers bake you can lift them off in one giant sheet and turn them over. Then, when crisp you can break them up. There are so many ways to do this it is best to experiment to find what method suits you.

For one batch I skipped the oil and used oily seeds with my dark rye whole wheat sourdough starter. I used raw sunflower seeds and some flax seeds (I used the coffee grinder to grind them) then I added sesame and poppy seeds keeping them whole. This batter was a bit more like a paste but I was able to make it thin adding more starter and using my fingers to spread it on the mat. The addition of salt is crucial and the baking brings out the toasted grain and seed taste. They were delicious.

https://littlespoonfarm.com/sourdough-discard-crackers/

Friday, June 21, 2024

Time

[I]t takes only the smallest pleasure or pain to teach us time's malleability. Some emotions speed it up, others slow it down; occasionally, it seems to go missing - until the eventual point when it really does go missing, never to return.”
Julian Barnes, The Sense of an Ending 

Julian Barnes

I certainly believe we all suffer damage, one way or another. How could we not, except in a world of perfect parents, siblings, neighbours, companions? And then there is the question on which so much depends, of how we react to the damage: whether we admit it or repress it, and how this affects our dealings with others. Some admit the damage, and try to mitigate it; some spend their lives trying to help others who are damaged; and there are those whose main concern is to avoid further damage to themselves, at whatever cost. And those are the ones who are ruthless, and the ones to be careful of.

Julian Barnes , The Sense of an Ending

The greatest patriotism is to tell your country when it is behaving dishonorably, foolishly, viciously. Julian Barnes, Flaubert's Parrot

It strikes me that this may be one of the differences between youth and age: when we are young, we invent different futures for ourselves; when we are old, we invent different pasts for others. Julian Barnes, The Sense of an Ending

I have an instinct for survival, for self-preservation. Julian Barnes

Reading and life are not separate but symbiotic. And for this serious task of imaginative discovery and self-discovery, there is and remains one perfect symbol: the printed book. Julian Barnes

When you read a great book, you don't escape from life, you plunge deeper into it. Julian Barnes

In an oppressive society the truth-telling nature of literature is of a different order, and sometimes valued more highly than other elements in a work of art. Julian Barnes

All bad things are exaggerated in the middle of the night. When you lie awake, you only think of bad things. Julian Barnes

Tuesday, June 18, 2024

The big hard part of my day became the best thing in it. Sarah Miller

Your skin is cold, but inside, you are warm, and safe-feeling, so that the cold is just a sensation, and not a misery. It’s unlike anything else I have ever felt in my entire life, and it is just a moment every day when I feel too good to remember that things are bad. And then, honestly, I spend the rest of the day recovering from it, not hyper-focusing on a million tasks, not being free from anxiety, not feeling ready to conquer things. I take a long bath and often fall asleep, and at some point manage to do the work required of me, but it’s basically a whole day lost to 20 minutes of extreme pleasure, and that’s fine with me.

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/01/style/cold-water-swimming-benefits.html

I am a great believer in variations on the routine. Kaye Gibbons

Someone once told me that writing is an act of faith. Another person told me that forgiving is also an act of faith. That’s true. I think both heal, both are arts. What a fine thing it is to do both at once. Kaye Gibbons

a private place where you go to dream

Like your bedroom, your writing room should be private, a place where you go to dream. Your schedule — in at about the same time every day, out when your thousand words are on paper or disk — exists in order to habituate yourself, to make yourself ready to dream just as you make yourself ready to sleep by going to bed at roughly the same time each night and following the same ritual as you go.

STEPHEN KING

Sunday, June 16, 2024

Lindsey Heatherly

The lawnmower cranked on the very first try. Still sounds like it's on its last leg. The a/c held up in 90-degree heat, didn't bat an eye. I had enough cash to fill up the tank and grab a few Coca Colas. The tv still works and the cats made a mess, but I've learned we can make messes and still do our best. I watched the sky fade from orange to black, finished mowing the lawn just in time. The moon took its place over the roof—thank god I had enough to send the check for this month. My daughter's laughter is muffled by the closed door I fixed with a Phillip's head and flat. I don't know how this will all pan out—I could get stuck in the what ifs. Spend a lot of time in my head, like I oftentimes do. Lots of suffering there, in a space I can't see. But the sun will come back, and tomorrow will be, and the birds in the back yard will sing. 

Lindsey Heatherly

When we read, we take in whole eyefuls of words. We gulp them like water. Peter Mendelsund, What We See When We Read

Colorful Corn

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Your poem effectively begins at the first moment you’ve surprised or startled yourself. Throw away everything that preceded that moment, and begin with that moment. Stephen Dunn, Walking Light: Memoirs and Essays on Poetry

 “Surely those folks who play their lives and their work eminently safe don’t often put themselves in the position where they can be startled or enlarged. Don’t put themselves near enough to the realm of the unknown where discovery resides, and joy has been rumored to appear.”
Stephen Dunn, Walking Light: Memoirs and Essays on Poetry

Saturday, June 15, 2024

Family is what you create, not what you inherit.

Tom Nichols

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To overcome difficulties is to experience the full delight of existence. Arthur Schopenhauer

A sense of humour is the only divine quality of man. Arthur Schopenhauer

The greatest of follies is to sacrifice health for any other kind of happiness. Arthur Schopenhauer

It is difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is impossible to find it anywhere else. Arthur Schopenhauer

If a big diamond is cut up into pieces, it immediately loses its value as a whole; or if an army is scattered or divided into small bodies, it loses all its power; and in the same way a great intellect has no more power than an ordinary one as soon as it is interrupted, disturbed, distracted, or diverted; for its superiority entails that it concentrates all its strength on one point and object. Arthur Schopenhauer

The truth can wait, for she lives a long life. Arthur Schopenhauer

Your friends call themselves sincere. The enemies are. Arthur Schopenhauer

Patriotism is the passion of fools and the most foolish of passions. Arthur Schopenhauer

Life is short and truth works far and lives long: let us speak the truth. Arthur Schopenhauer

The Universe is a dream dreamed by a single dreamer where all the dream characters dream too. Arthur Schopenhauer

After your death, you will be what you were before your birth. Arthur Schopenhauer

Religion is the masterpiece of the art of animal training, for it trains people as to how they shall think. Arthur Schopenhauer

One should use common words to say uncommon things. Arthur Schopenhauer

Each day is a little life: every waking and rising a little birth, every fresh morning a little youth, every going to rest and sleep a little death. Arthur Schopenhauer

Friday, June 14, 2024

Listen inward

 “If you and I are to be instruments of the healing of the world, it is that we are quiet enough to hear our dharma, our way, and that we live our way as a statement. As Gandhi said, ‘My life is my message.’ We live our lives in such a way that the way you are in the supermarket, the way you are with your loved ones, the way you are when you’re facing pain, it is all part of the deepest wisdom statement you are able to make. It is the truth of your deepest being. For that, you have to listen inward very quietly as your offering to all beings.” – Ram Dass

Fences

Stockade fences are going up everywhere. The world is becoming one big labyrinth. Is this a metaphor?

The world is held together, really it is held together, by the love & the passion of a very few people. Otherwise, of course you can despair. You could be that monster [...] you have to decide, in yourself, not to be. James Baldwin

“Love has never been a popular movement. And no one's ever wanted, really, to be free. The world is held together, really it is held together, by the love and the passion of a very few people. Otherwise, of course, you can despair. Walk down the street of any city, any afternoon, and look around you. What you've got to remember is what you're looking at is also you. Everyone you're looking at is also you. You could be that person. You could be that monster, you could be that cop. And you have to decide, in yourself, not to be.”

James Baldwin

People can't, unhappily, invent their mooring posts, their lovers and their friends, anymore than they can invent their parents. Life gives these and also takes them away and the great difficulty is to say Yes to life. James Baldwin, Giovanni's Room

The paradox of education is precisely this - that as one begins to become conscious one begins to examine the society in which he is being educated. James Baldwin

All art is a kind of confession, more or less oblique. All artists, if they are to survive, are forced, at last, to tell the whole story; to vomit the anguish up. James Baldwin

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time

C.S.Lewis: We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and private: and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship.

There is an Indian proverb that says that everyone is a house with four rooms – a physical, a mental, and emotional, and a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in one room most of the time but unless we go into every room every day, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person. Rumer Godden

Sometimes, she said, remembering that morning, I write poems that are taller than I am. Rumer Godden, The River

Every piece of writing... starts from what I call a grit... a sight or sound, a sentence or a happening that does not pass away... but quite inexplicably lodges in the mind. Rumer Godden

When you learn to read you will be born again...and you will never be quite so alone again. Rumer Godden

Wednesday, June 12, 2024

But whether he was happy or not was hard to say. Probably he was neither, just as a plant is neither.

Nathanael West, Jonathan Lethem (2009). “Miss Lonelyhearts: & the Day of the Locust”, p.89, New Directions Publishing

He thought of how calm he was. His calm was so perfect that he could not destroy it even by being conscious of it. Nathanael West

 Nathanael West (2009). “Miss Lonelyhearts & The Day of the Locust”, p.51, New Directions Publishing

You once said to me that I talk like a man in a book. I not only talk, but think and feel like one. I have spent my life in books; literature has deeply dyed my brain its own colour. This literary colouring is a protective one--like the brown of the rabbit or the checks of the quail--making it impossible for me to tell where literature ends and I begin. Nathanael West

At college, and perhaps for a year afterwards, they had believed in literature, had believed in Beauty and in personal expression as an absolute end. When they lost this belief, they lost everything.

Nathanael West, (2009). “Miss Lonelyhearts: & the Day of the Locust”, p.14, New Directions Publishing

Nico Muhly: Throughline

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pT5JEQ8nqG0

Composed during the pandemic.

There are roughly three New Yorks

“There are roughly three New Yorks. There is, first, the New York of the man or woman who was born here, who takes the city for granted and accepts its size and its turbulence as natural and inevitable. Second, there is the New York of the commuter — the city that is devoured by locusts each day and spat out each night. Third, there is the New York of the person who was born somewhere else and came to New York in quest of something.
...Commuters give the city its tidal restlessness; natives give it solidity and continuity; but the settlers give it passion.”
E.B. White, Here Is New York

Trust me, Wilbur. People are very gullible. They'll believe anything they see in print. E.B. White, Charlotte’s Web

You have been my friend. That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what's a life, anyway? We're born, we live a little while, we die. A spider's life can't help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle. Heaven knows anyone's life can stand a little of that. E. B. White, Charlotte’s Web

All that I hope to say in books, all that I ever hope to say, is that I love the world. E.B. White

A Library

 “A library is a good place to go when you feel unhappy, for there, in a book, you may find encouragement and comfort. A library is a good place to go when you feel bewildered or undecided, for there, in a book, you may have your question answered. Books are good company, in sad times and happy times, for books are people - people who have managed to stay alive by hiding between the covers of a book."

[Letters of Note; Troy (MI, USA) Public Library, 1971]”
E.B. White

If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day. E.B. White

It is not often that someone comes along who is a true friend and a good writer. E. B. White

One of the most time-consuming things is to have an enemy. E. B. White

Commas in The New Yorker fall with the precision of knives in a circus act, outlining the victim. E. B. White

I can only assume that your editorial writer tripped over the First Amendment and thought it was the office cat. E. B. White

All we need is a meteorologist who has once been soaked to the skin without ill effect. No one can write knowingly of the weather who walks bent over on wet days. E. B. White

I have yet to see a piece of writing, political or non-political, that doesn't have a slant. All writing slants the way a writer leans, and no man is born perpendicular, although many men are born upright. E. B. White

It is easier for a man to be loyal to his club than to his planet; the bylaws are shorter, and he is personally acquainted with the other members. E. B. White

The world organization debates disarmament in one room and, in the next room, moves the knights and pawns that make national arms imperative. E. B. White

Writing is an act of faith, not a trick of grammar. E. B. White

I see nothing in space as promising as the view from a Ferris wheel. E. B. White

I would feel more optimistic about a bright future for man if he spent less time proving that he can outwit Nature and more time tasting her sweetness and respecting her seniority. E. B. White

The only sense that is common in the long run, is the sense of change and we all instinctively avoid it. E. B. White

The world is full of people who have never, since childhood, met an open doorway with an open mind. E. B. White

Old age is a special problem for me because I've never been able to shed the mental image I have of myself - a lad of about 19. E. B. White

Dream

I dreamed I had a herd of deer inside my house. I volunteered to take care of them and then I forgot about them. I was rushing home to see how they were. Had they torn the house apart? Would they be sleeping, thirsty? I had to find out.

Grace Cavalieri

Tomato Pies, 25 Cents

Tomato pies are what we called them, those days,
before Pizza came in,
at my Grandmother’s restaurant,
in Trenton New Jersey.
My grandfather is rolling meatballs
in the back. He studied to be a priest in Sicily but
saved his sister Maggie from marrying a bad guy
by coming to America.
Uncle Joey is rolling dough and spooning sauce.
Uncle Joey, is always scrubbed clean,
sobered up, in a white starched shirt, after
cops delivered him home just hours before.
The waitresses are helping
themselves to handfuls of cash out of the drawer,
playing the numbers with Moon Mullin
and Shad, sent in from Broad Street. 1942,
tomato pies with cheese, 25 cents.
With anchovies, large, 50 cents.
A whole dinner is 60 cents (before 6 pm).
How the soldiers, bussed in from Fort Dix,
would stand outside all the way down Warren Street,
waiting for this new taste treat,
young guys in uniform,
lined up and laughing, learning Italian,
before being shipped out to fight the last great war.
 
Poem copyright ©2010 by Grace Cavalieri from her most recent book of poetry, Sounds Like Something I Would Say, Goss 183 Casa Menendez, 2010. Reprinted by permission of Grace Cavalieri and the publisher.

Tuesday, June 11, 2024

Only those who still have hope can benefit from tears. When they finish, they feel better. But to those without hope, whose anguish is basic and permanent, no good comes from crying. Nothing changes for them. They usually know this, but still can’t help crying. Nathanael West, The Day of the Locust

Art Is a Way Out. Do not let life overwhelm you. When the old paths are choked with the débris of failure, look for newer and fresher paths. Art is just such a path. Art is distilled from suffering.

Nathanael West

You know, I've been around the ruling class all my life, and I've been quite aware of their total contempt for the people of the country. Gore Vidal

Suicide Prevention on RI Bridges

https://turnto10.com/news/local/ri-suicide-prevention-advocates-angry-state-bridges-will-not-get-safety-netting

46 Years ago I ran away from my family to save my life

It was the smartest, bravest thing I ever did. I had to save myself from unnecessary medical attention from a deranged addicted, pathological narcissistic mother. To this day my siblings do not see it or understand my story. They are in fact stunted by their own refusal to see the dysfunction abandonment abuse and insanity bestowed upon the family. I doubt this will ever change since there is zero inclination on their parts to examine the truth of their childhood. For them it's a lot more fun to drink, take drugs and distract themselves with endless luxuries delusions and vacations. There's an obsession with class status and lifestyle. As an introvert and artist I do not understand this. My conclusion is, the folktales are all true!

People In Higher Social Class Have An Exaggerated Belief That They Are More Capable Than Others

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2019/05/social-class-exaggerated-belief

JOMO: The Joy of Missing Out

“Oh the joy of missing out.

When the world begins to shout

And rush towards that shining thing;

The latest bit of mental bling–

Trying to have it, see it, do it,

You simply know you won't go through it;

The anxious clamoring and need

This restless hungry thing to feed.

Instead, you feel the loveliness;

The pleasure of your emptiness.

You spurn the treasure on the shelf

In favor of your peaceful self;

Without regret, without a doubt.

Oh the joy of missing out”

Michael Leunig

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201807/jomo-the-joy-missing-out 

Many people who are on their death bed will tell you that they do not regret the missed parties or the superficial friendships, but they regret the deeper stuff: the long dinner conversations with family, not being true to yourself, not developing deeper relationships, and not practicing enough self-love.

Frogs by Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds Amazed to be back in the water Again

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNfrLoQdB_E

What Makes you Happy?

https://www.theredhandfiles.com/what-makes-you-happy

Roger Deacon: a metamorphosis happens


“When you enter the water, something, like a metamorphosis happens. Leaving behind the land, you go through the looking glass surface and enter a new world in which survival, not ambition or desire, is the dominant aim.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmer's Journey Through Britain

“When you swim, you feel your body for what it mostly is – water – and it begins to move with the water around it. No wonder we feel such sympathy for beached whales; we are beached at birth ourselves. To swim is to experience how it was before you were born.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog

“The great thing about an aimless swim is that everything about it is concentrated in the here and now; none of its essence or intensity can escape into the past or future. The swimmer is content to be borne on his way full of mysteries, doubts and uncertainties. He is a leaf on the stream, free at last from his petty little purposes in life.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmer’s Journey Through Britain

“This passage ended up in my own book. “Your sense of the present,” he added, “is overwhelming.” Time itself could be altered; how awesome that was! What’s more, this was accessible magic, ready to be felt by anyone who made the plunge.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmers Journey Through Britain

“I leave my devils on the waves.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmers Journey Through Britain

“I am only interested in everything.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmers Journey Through Britain

“So swimming is a rite of passage, a crossing of boundaries: the line of the shore, the bank of the river, the edge of the pool, the surface itself. When you enter the water, something like metamorphosis happens. Leaving behind the land, you go through the looking-glass surface and enter a new world, in which survival, not ambition or desire, is the dominant aim. The lifeguards at the pool or the beach remind you of the thin line between waving and drowning.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmers Journey Through Britain

“Most of us live in a world where more and more places and things are signposted, labelled, and officially ‘interpreted’. There is something about all this that is turning the reality of things into virtual reality. It is the reason why walking, cycling and swimming will always be subversive activities. They allow us to regain a sense of what is old and wild in these islands, by getting off the beaten track and breaking free of the official version of things. A swimming journey would give me access to that part of our world which, like darkness, mist, woods or high mountains, still retains most mystery. It would afford me a different perspective on the rest of land-locked humanity.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmers Journey Through Britain

“Water is H2O, hydrogen two parts, oxygen one, But there is also a third thing, that makes it water And nobody knows what that is.”
Roger Deakin, Waterlog: A Swimmers Journey Through Britain

Steve Edwards New Piece

 https://yalereview.org/article/steve-edwards-yellow-band

Steve Edwards is the author of the memoir Breaking into the Backcountry, the story of his seven months as the caretaker of a wilderness homestead along the Rogue River in Oregon. His essays have most recently appeared in The Sun, Orion, Literary Hub, and Longreads. He lives outside Boston with his wife and son. 

Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity. Simone Weil

The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. Isaac Asimov

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr. Seuss

The cost of liberty is less than the price of repression. W. E. B. Du Bois

As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being. Carl Jung

It is the search for the truth, not possession of the truth which is the way of philosophy. Its questions are more relevant than its answers, and every answer becomes a new question. Karl Jaspers

A light here required a shadow there. Virginia Woolf

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us. J. R. R. Tolkien

The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. Ernest Hemingway

The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them: that's the essence of inhumanity. George Bernard Shaw

People with courage and character always seem sinister to the rest. Hermann Hesse

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Socrates: We cannot live better than in seeking to become better.

My friend…care for your psyche…know thyself, for once we know ourselves, we may learn how to care for ourselves.

The really important thing is not to live, but to live well. And to live well meant, along with more enjoyable things in life, to live according to your principles.

True wisdom comes to each of us when we realize how little we understand about life, ourselves, and the world around us.

Let him who would move the world first move himself.  

To find yourself, think for yourself.                               

Those who are hardest to love need it the most.     

Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.                       

Prefer knowledge to wealth, for the one is transitory, the other perpetual.                         

Beware the barrenness of a busy life.      

SOCRATES                 

We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.

 Socrates

Monday, June 10, 2024

Don’t go searching for a subject, let your subject find you.

Don’t go searching for a subject, let your subject find you. You can’t rush inspiration. How do you think Capote came to “In Cold Blood”? It was just an ordinary day when he picked up the paper to read his horoscope, and there it was — fate. Whether it’s a harrowing account of a multiple homicide, a botched Everest expedition or a colorful family of singers trying to escape from Austria when the Nazis invade, you can’t force it. Once your subject finds you, it’s like falling in love. It will be your constant companion. Shadowing you, peeping in your windows, calling you at all hours to leave messages like, “Only you understand me.” Your ideal subject should be like a stalker with limitless resources, living off the inheritance he received after the suspiciously sudden death of his father. He’s in your apartment pawing your stuff when you’re not around, using your toothbrush and cutting out all the really good synonyms from the thesaurus. Don’t be afraid: you have a best seller on your hands.

COLSON WHITEHEAD

Life is essentially a cheat and its conditions are those of defeat; the redeeming things are not happiness and pleasure but the deeper satisfactions that come out of struggle. F. Scott Fitzgerald

Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone,' he told me, 'just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had.

F. Scott Fitzgerald

Sunday, June 09, 2024

Robert Blondel “The twelve dangers of hell” (1480).

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People used to believe that cavities were caused by demons boring holes in teeth.⁠

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If you have to sacrafice your voice to "keep the peace" it's no longer peaceful. you'e internalizing the chaos instead. Zara Bas

The tradition of passing trauma from generation to generation like a family heirloom stops with you its final inheritor determined to lay it to rest

“Until your very last breath, you will always be deserving.”
Zara Bas, This Time You Save Yourself

“It’s okay if you broke down today it’s okay if you broke down yesterday it’s okay if you’ve broken down every day of this week   You’re still here and you’re just as resilient and lovable as ever”
Zara Bas, This Time You Save Yourself

“You don’t have to be in crisis to be important.”
Zara Bas, This Time You Save Yourself

“You can decide now that the life you’ve built is a good one that can be expanded upon rather than a subpar one that must be fixed”
Zara Bas, This Time You Save Yourself

“you are not the things they said to you in the throes of anger”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“Regardless of whether you believe it or not
you are important
you are worthy
you are good enough
you are acceptable
you are valuable.”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“Who you are is someone worth loving
not only for the way you make others feel
the way you show kindness
enlivening the days of strangers
and loved ones alike
who you are is someone worth loving

- Simply as you are.”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“I know you've been told the very opposite
but hear me out

you are worth the hassle
you are worth the inconvenience
you are not exasperating
you're not causing a fuss
asking for what you need is not being difficult

- Stop apologizing for being human”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“I don't know if I'm doing this correctly
this whole
'making life for yourself' thing
but I am trying
and that is what matters.”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“So then be basic
like what everyone else likes
enjoy the pumpkin spice lattes
wear leggings as pants
because no matter how mainstream

If you like it, you like it and that's a good enough reason”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“It wasn't that you were hard to love
they just weren't capable of loving you
the way you deserved”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“It's not just okay to be sensitive
it's beautiful to be sensitive
it's beautiful to be aware and feel deeply
it's beautiful to love with your heart on your sleeve”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“You were not put on this earth to turn your life into a performance piece for the judgment of others.”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

“The high of finding places to fix within yourself can quickly become another addiction
in the healing rat race so don't forget
- You can be flawed and still be flourishing.”
Zara Bas, I Have to Tell You Something

A writer who waits for ideal conditions under which to work will die without putting a word on paper.

 E. B. White

In the totalitarian regime the doubting, inquisitive, and imaginative mind has to be suppressed. The totalitarian slave is only allowed to memorize, to salivate when the bell rings.”

 Expressed in psychoanalytic terms, through daily propagandistic noise backed up by forceful verbal cues, people can more and more be forced to identify with the powerful noisemaker. Big brother's voice resounds in all the little brothers.”
Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

“The mind that is open for questions is open for dissent. In the totalitarian regime the doubting, inquisitive, and imaginative mind has to be suppressed. The totalitarian slave is only allowed to memorize, to salivate when the bell rings.”
Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

“It is often disturbing to see how even intelligent people do not have straight thinking minds of their own. The pattern of the mind, whether toward conformity and compliance or otherwise, is conditioned rather early in life.”
Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

“The modern words “brainwashing,” “thought control,” and “menticide” serve to provide a clearer conception of the actual methods by which man’s integrity can be violated. When a concept is given its right name, it can be more easily recognized—and it is with this recognition that the opportunity for systematic correction begins.” ― Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

“The continual intrusion into our minds of the hammering noises of arguments and propaganda can lead to two kinds of reactions. It may lead to apathy and indifference, the I-don’t-care reaction, or to a more intensified desire to study and to understand. Unfortunately, the first reaction is the more popular one. The flight from study and awareness is much too common in a world that throws too many confusing pictures to the individual. For the sake of our democracy, based on freedom and individualism, we have to bring ourselves back to study again and again. Otherwise, we can become easy victims of a well-planned verbal attack on our minds and consciences.” ― Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

“In order to tame people into the desired pattern, victims must be brought to a point where they have lost their alert consciousness and mental awareness. Freedom of discussion and free intellectual exchange hinder conditioning. Feelings of terror, feelings of fear and hopelessness, of being alone, of standing with one's back to the wall, must be instilled.” ― Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

“Freedom can never be completely safeguarded by rules and laws. It is as much dependent on the courage, integrity, and responsibility of each of us as it is on these qualities in those who govern. Every trait in us and our leaders which points to passive submission to mere power betrays democratic freedom. In our American system of democratic government, three different powerful branches serve to check each other, the executive, the legislative, and the judiciary. Yet when there is no will to prevent encroachment of the power of one by any of the others, this system of checks, too, can degenerate.” ― Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

Delusions, carefully implanted, are difficult to correct. Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

What counts in any man is the consistency and integrity of his behavior, and his courage in taking a stand, not his conformity to official dogma. ― Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing  

Joost Meerloo

Totalitarianism is man’s escape from the fearful realities of life into the virtual womb of the leaders. The individual’s actions are directed from this womb – from the inner sanctum. . . man need no longer assume responsibility for his own life. The order and logic of the prenatal world reign. There is peace and silence, the peace of utter submission. —Joost Meerloo

“There is another important weapon the totalitarians use in their campaign to frighten the world into submission. This is the weapon of psychological shock. Hitler kept his enemies in a state of constant confusion and diplomatic upheaval. They never knew what this unpredictable madman was going to do next. Hitler was never logical, because he knew that that was what he was expected to be. Logic can be met with logic, while illogic cannot—it confuses those who think straight. The Big Lie and monotonously repeated nonsense have more emotional appeal in a cold war than logic and reason. While the enemy is still searching for a reasonable counter-argument to the first lie, the totalitarians can assault him with another.” ― Joost A.M. Meerloo, The Rape of the Mind: The Psychology of Thought Control, Menticide, and Brainwashing

The Open Door and the Dangling Keys

Last night at around 6:30 PM we drove up and walked our dog Romeo in the North End and passed a house that had the door wide open and keys dangling. It seemed off to me. After our walk we drove by to see if the door was still open. It was and the keys were still dangling. I felt responsible for what I saw, what might have gone wrong and what could go wrong. This haunted me.  So when we arrived home I phoned the police. I hope everyone was okay. 

Only a soul full of despair can ever attain serenity and, to be in despair, you must have loved a good deal and still love the world. Blaise Cendrars

You know, people come to therapy really for a blessing. Not so much to fix what's broken, but to get what's broken blessed. James Hillman

Never think that war, no matter how necessary, nor how justified, is not a crime. Ernest Hemingway

Saturday, June 08, 2024

Be not afraid of life believe that life is worth living and your belief will create the fact. Henry James

Community Policing is Working

 https://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Justice/2024/0529/Boston-crime-murders-community-policing

Never say you know the last word about any human heart. Henry James

Live all you can: it's a mistake not to. It doesn't matter what you do in particular, so long as you have had your life. If you haven't had that, what have you had? Henry James, The Ambassadors

Try to be one of those on whom nothing is lost. Henry James, The art of fiction

I call people rich when they're able to meet the requirements of their imagination. Henry James, The Portrait of a Lady

“She had an immense curiosity about life, and was constantly staring and wondering.”
Henry James, The Portrait of a Lady

Henry James

“We work in the dark - we do what we can - we give what we have. Our doubt is our passion, and our passion is our task. The rest is the madness of art.”
Henry James, The Middle Years

“There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea.”
Henry James, The Portrait of a Lady

“Sorrow comes in great waves...but rolls over us, and though it may almost smother us, it leaves us. And we know that if it is strong, we are stronger, inasmuch as it passes and we remain.”
Henry James

Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind. Henry James

Judge a human being by his compassion and his sincerity. Rod Serling

By failing to read or listen to poets, society dooms itself to inferior modes of articulation, those of the politician, the salesman, or the charlatan. In other words, it forfeits its own evolutionary potential. For what distinguishes us from the rest of the animal kingdom is precisely the gift of speech. Poetry is not a form of entertainment and in a certain sense not even a form of art, but it is our anthropological, genetic goal. Our evolutionary, linguistic beacon.

 Joseph Brodsky

The Agreeable Tiger Moth

 We just spotted this moth on our porch.

We die to each other daily. What we know of other people is only our memory of the moments during which we knew them. And they have changed since then. To pretend that they and we are the same is a useful and convenient social convention which must sometimes be broken. We must also remember that at every meeting we are meeting a stranger. T.S. Eliot, The Cocktail Party

To do the useful thing, to say the courageous thing, to contemplate the beautiful thing: that is enough for one man's life.T.S. Eliot, The Use of Poetry and the Use of Criticism

T. S. Eliot, From his play, The Cocktail Party.

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You don't write because you want to say something, you write because you have something to say.

 F. Scott Fitzgerald

Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall. F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

F. Scott Fitzgerald

 And I like large parties. They’re so intimate. At small parties there isn’t any privacy.

F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

That is part of the beauty of all literature. You discover that your longings are universal longings, that you're not lonely and isolated from anyone. You belong. F. Scott Fitzgerald

Friday, June 07, 2024

Every one of us is, in the cosmic perspective, precious. If a human disagrees with you, let him live. In a hundred billion galaxies, you will not find another. Carl Sagan

Assembly approves naming Woonsocket bike path after late N.S. resident Valliere

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STATE HOUSE – Woonsocket’s section of the Blackstone River Bike Path will soon be known as the Albert P. Valliere Bike Path under legislation sponsored by Sen. Melissa Murray and Rep. Stephen Casey, and approved by the General Assembly today.

Valliere, who passed away in 2020 at the age of 74, was a North Smithfield resident who was born in Woonsocket and was the CEO of Nation Wide Construction. He served on the Downtown Woonsocket Collaborative and was named an Outstanding Smart Growth Leader in 2017 for his dedication to revitalizing the area and creating affordable housing in Rhode Island.

Murray described Valliere as a dedicated leader and contributor to the Woonsocket community, noting he lent his professional expertise to help city officials respond to affordable housing efforts.

 “Albert Valliere dedicated much of his life to making Woonsocket a better community for all of us, and particularly understood how important it is that every family has a home that is safe and welcoming,” said Murray, a Democrat representing District 24 in Woonsocket and North Smithfield. “He was a shining example of a business leader who genuinely cared about the community where he worked.”

“It’s very appropriate that our bike path, which is a beautiful recreational resource that makes Woonsocket a better place, will bear his name,” Murray added.

Valliere was also an avid triathlete who reportedly once biked 200 miles in a day, and was always the first out of the water in his age group.

“Naming the bike path for Albert Valliere is such a fitting tribute to a man who loved to ride and loved Woonsocket,” said Casey. “We are fortunate for all he did for our city.”

The Woonsocket City Council voted in February to support the bill. The legislation – 2024-S 24832024-H 8319 – now goes to the governor for signature.

Chess Set, 2005 by Rachel Whiteread

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Stories have to be told or they die, and when they die, we can't remember who we are or why we're here. Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

Louder Minds on The Nine Circles of Hell

 https://louderminds.com/introverts-9-circles-hell/

Elementary School

Heads on the desk. Nice cold plastic. I remember in elementary school the lights never came on unless there was a rain storm because the windows were so huge. It was exciting when the lights came on.

Everybody he knew was going quietly mad from being tied on a leash that was too short. Harry Crews, An American Family: The Baby with the Curious Markings

He had been hurt doing everything he had ever done. He expected it, even wanted it. Nothing centered a man like pain. Nothing drove the irrelevant bullshit our of your mind like the taste of your own blood. Duffy always wanted to tell people who were worried about the future of their children, or about God and the order of the universe, to go out and break a rib or two. A few broken ribs threw all thoughts of children, God and the order of the universe right out the window. Nobody with broken ribs ever had free-floating anxiety, or so Duffy was convinced. It was cheaper than a psychiatrist and never so humiliating. Harry Crews

The Old Man in the Sea is not about fishing!

 “The real artist with no tear in his eye and no sadness in his heart, puts the pages in the fire and does it again!"

"All art is a metaphor it's by telling you one thing when your mean something else.
The Old Man in the Sea is not about fishing!"

"Writing a book is like torture that you don't know, but after it’s done and there it is. It's a joy like unlike anything else, I think it's the closest that a man can come to knowing what is feels like to have a baby.”
Harry Crews

You get a tattoo like this and a ’do like this, and wear a shirt where the tattoo shows, and you walk into a room of people and feel the animosity, the disapproval, the how-dare-you. You can feel it coming off them like heat off a stove. And the thing I want to ask them is, how have I deserved this, what have I done that so offends you? I have not asked you to cut your hair this way. I have not asked you what you thought of it, or to approve it. So why do you feel this way towards me? If you can’t get past my 'too—my tattoo—and my 'do—the way I got my hair cut—it’s only because you have decided there are certain things that can be done with hair and certain things that cannot be done with hair. And certain of them are right and proper and decent, and the rest indicate a warped, degenerate nature; therefore I am warped and degenerate. 'Cause I got my hair cut a different way, man? You gonna really live your life like that? What’s wrong with you? Harry Crews, Getting Naked with Harry Crews: Interviews

The writers job is to get naked, To hide nothing. To look away from nothing. To look at it. To not blink. To be not embarrassed or shamed of it. Strip it down and lets get down to where the blood is, the bone is. Instead of hiding it with clothes and all kinds of other stuff, luxury! Harry Crews

So far as I can see, nothing good in the world has ever been done by well-rounded people. The good work is done by people with jagged, broken edges, because those edges cut things and leave an imprint, a design.

Harry Crews

I first became fascinated with the Sears catalogue because all the people in its pages were perfect. Nearly everybody I knew had something missing, a finger cut off, a toe split, an ear half-chewed away, an eye clouded with blindness from a glancing fence staple. And if they didn't have something missing, they were carrying scars from barbed wire, or knives, or fishhooks. But the people in the catalogue had no such hurts. They were not only whole, had all their arms and legs and eyes on their unscarred bodies, but they were also beautiful. Harry Crews, A Childhood: The Biography of a Place

Speaks well of a man to need a little something in this world. I wouldn't trust a man who could git through it cold sober. Harry Crews, Blood and Grits

Alcohol whipped me. Alcohol and I had many, many marvelous times together. We laughed, we talked, we danced at the party together; then one day I woke up and the band had gone home and I was lying in the broken glass with a shirt full of puke and I said, 'Hey, man, the ball game's up'.

Harry Crews

If you wait until you got time to write a novel, or time to write a story, or time to read the hundred thousands of books you should have already read - if you wait for the time, you will never do it. ‘Cause there ain’t no time; world don’t want you to do that. World wants you to go to the zoo and eat cotton candy, preferably seven days a week. Harry Crews

I think all of us are looking for that which does not admit of bullshit . . . If you tell me you can bench press 450, hell, we'll load up the bar and put you under it. Either you can do it or you can't do it—you can't bullshit. Ultimately, sports are just about as close to what one would call the truth as it is possible to get in this world. Harry Crews, Getting Naked with Harry Crews: Interviews

Sorrow eats time. Be patient. Time eats sorrow. Louise Erdrich, LaRose

There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with. Harry Crews

Harry Crews was born June 7, 1935

Harry Crews was born June 7, 1935, during the Great Depression to two poor tenant farmers in Bacon County, Georgia. His father died while he was still a baby, and his mother soon remarried to his father's brother. Crews was unaware that this man was not his biological father until years later.

As a child, he suffered two near-death experiences. When he was just five he contracted polio, causing his legs to fold up into the back of his thighs. He was originally told by doctors that he would not be able to walk again. After about a year of being immobile, except crawling with his hands, his legs straightened again and he was able to walk. Soon after this experience, he then fell into a vat of nearly boiling water, which was being used for soaking dead hogs before they were further prepared. His head did not go under the water, which saved his life, according to doctors. He suffered extreme burns on most of the rest of his body. He once again was unable to leave the bed when he was healing. Crews wrote in A Childhood: The Biography of a Place: "Nearly everybody I knew had something missing, a finger cut off, a toe split, an ear half-chewed away, an eye clouded with blindness from a glancing fence staple. And if they didn't have something missing, they were carrying scars from barbed wire, or knives, or fishhooks."[1] These experiences later influenced the freakish characters he wrote about, although he did not like to use the term "freak" to describe them.

While Crews was still a child, his mother left his stepfather, and he and his brother went with her to live in the Springfield section of Jacksonville, Florida. Crews finished high school there as a below average student. After graduation, he joined the Marines during the Korean War. After his service, he attended the University of Florida on the G.I. Bill. Here, Crews became a student of Andrew Nelson Lytle, who had also taught Flannery O'Connor, and James Dickey. Crews and Lytle kept in contact for years afterwards, and Lytle provided criticism of Crews's early work.

After an unplanned pregnancy, Crews married Sally Ellis, who gave birth to his first son, Patrick Scott. Sally soon wanted a divorce due to his infidelity and obsessiveness with writing. "I was obsessed to the point of desperation with becoming a writer," he wrote, "and, further, I lived with the conviction that I had gotten a late start toward that difficult goal…Consequently, perhaps I was impatient, irritable, and inattentive toward Sally as a young woman and mother."[2] However, he soon convinced Sally to remarry, and they had a second son, Byron Jason.

Crews graduated from the University of Florida with a degree in English, and eventually received a graduate degree of education. Crews then began teaching English, which he continued to do for the rest of his career, along with his career as a writer. In 1963, he had his first story published: "The Unattached Smile". In 1964, he published another short story, "A Long Wail".

In 1964 his first son, Patrick, drowned in a neighbor's pool. Crews tried to perform mouth-to-mouth resuscitation, but this proved ineffectual. After the death of his son, Crews continued writing his first novel, The Gospel Singer, which appeared in 1968. Just after this publication, another came for his second novel, Naked in Garden Hills. Both were well received by critics at the time. In 1972, Sally asked for a second and final divorce. Crews did not marry again. His sole surviving son, Byron Jason Crews, is personal representative and acting executor of the Harry Crews Literary Estate.[3

Writing career and style

After Crews's first two novels, he wrote prolifically, including novels, screenplays and essays, for journals including Esquire and Playboy. He often set precise due times to finish whatever he was working on, and so had quick turnaround between writings. Once he published The Gospel Singer, he began to write eight novels, publishing one almost every year. Much of Crews's work is now out of print.

His works were known to feature "freaks", and "outcasts", usually from rural areas. In Car, a man consumes an entire car by slowly eating piece by piece. In The Knockout Artist, a poor, Georgia-born boxer with a glass jaw knocks himself out at parties for money. A Feast of Snakes, one of his best known, and most provocative novels, was banned for a time in South Africa.

Crews felt strongly that authors should write about experiences that they have actually had. In his personal life, he often moved from obsession to obsession, and became knowledgeable on many subjects. Crews and Sally learned karate together, which then influenced Karate Is a Thing of the Spirit. In addition, The Hawk is Dying features an amateur hawk trainer who deals with condescension from college professors, and features a son-figure who drowns. Crews himself had a fascination with hawks for a period of time, and even trapped and trained them so they would sit on his arm. Body is a story about a competitive female body builder, her trainer, and her lower-class family from Waycross, Georgia. Crews himself trained his girlfriend, Maggie Powell, who would become a Southeast bodybuilding champion.

During his time writing for Esquire, he wrote a column called "Grits"[4] for fourteen months in the 1970s that covered such topics as cockfighting and dog fighting.[5] Filled with rough experiences he had outside of urban life, "grits" became a term he used to describe the tough southern characters featured in his writing.

Crews continued writing and publishing his entire life. As his reputation grew, he became a favorite of Madonna, Sean Penn, Kim Gordon, and Thurston Moore. Madonna and Penn discussed making film adaptations of his novels, but these never came to fruition. Crews's final novel, An American Family, featured a blurb on the cover from Moore, saying, "God bless Harry Crews, America's best writer. He’ll break your heart but he'll always bring you love."

The University of Georgia acquired Crews's papers in August 2006. The archive includes manuscripts and typescripts of his fiction, correspondence, and notes made by Crews while on assignment.[6]

Crews died on March 28, 2012, from complications of neuropathy.[7] His sole surviving son, Byron J. Crews, is professor emeritus of English and Dramatic Writing at Wright State University in Dayton, Ohio.[3]

Harry Crews: What the artist owes the world is his work; not a model for living.

The propagandist's purpose is to make one set of people forget that certain other sets of people are human. Aldous Huxley

Ravens are the birds I'll miss most when I die. If only the darkness into which we must look were composed of the black light of their limber intelligence. If only we did not have to die at all. Instead, become ravens. Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum

So what is wild? What is wilderness? What are dreams but an internal wilderness and what is desire but a wildness of the soul? Louise Erdrich, The Blue Jay's Dance: A Birth Year

There will never come a time when I will be able to resist my emotions. Louise Erdrich, Tales of Burning Love

To sew is to pray. Men don't understand this. They see the whole but they don't see the stitches. They don't see the speech of the creator in the work of the needle. We mend. We women turn things inside out and set things right. We salvage what we can of human garments and piece the rest into blankets. Sometimes our stitches stutter and slow. Only a woman's eyes can tell. Other times, the tension in the stitches might be too tight because of tears, but only we know what emotion went into the making. Only women can hear the prayer. Louise Erdrich, Four Souls

Women without children are also the best of mothers, often, with the patience, interest, and saving grace that the constant relationship with children cannot always sustain. I come to crave our talk and our daughters gain precious aunts. Women who are not mothering their own children have the clarity and focus to see deeply into the character of children webbed by family. A child is fortuante who feels witnessed as a person, outside relationships with parents by another adult. Louise Erdrich, The Blue Jay's Dance: A Birth Year

I prefer to have some beliefs that don't make logical sense. Louise Erdrich

When we are young, the words are scattered all around us. As they are assembled by experience, so also are we, sentence by sentence, until the story takes shape. Louise Erdrich, The Plague of Doves

We do know that no one gets wise enough to really understand the heart of another, though it is the task of our life to try.
Louise Erdrich, The Bingo Palace

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. ― Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum

 

Very early in life I became fascinated with the wonders language can achieve. And I began playing with words. Gwendolyn Brooks

We are each other's harvest; we are each other's business; we are each other's magnitude and bond. Gwendolyn Brooks

Live not for Battles Won. Live not for The-End-of-the-Song. Live in the along.

 ― Gwendolyn Brooks, Report from Part One

Writing is a delicious agony. Gwendolyn Brooks

She was learning to love moments. To love moments for themselves. Gwendolyn Brooks

I am a writer perhaps because I am not a talker. Gwendolyn Brooks

Exhaust the little moment. Soon it dies. And be it gash or gold it will not come Again in this identical disguise.

Gwendolyn Brooks, Annie Allen

One reason that cats are happier than people is that they have no newspapers.

Gwendolyn Brooks, In the Mecca 

Gwendolyn Brooks: I wrote about what I saw and heard in the street. I lived in a small second-floor apartment at the corner, and I could look first on one side and then the other. There was my material.

It's the birthday of the woman who wrote, "We real cool. We / Left school. We / Lurk late. We / Strike straight." Gwendolyn Brooks, who was born in Topeka, Kansas (1917), but grew up and spent nearly all her life in the Southside of Chicago. She began writing poems when she was a child and published her first poem at the age of 13.

Her parents encouraged her literary ambitions and put her into contact with Langston Hughes, to whom she wrote and sent her poems. Langston Hughes wrote back to her: "You have talent. Keep writing! You'll have a book published one day."

She published her second collection of poetry, Annie Allen, in 1949, and in it she used an experimental form that she called the sonnet-ballad. Critics liked it, and a Times book reviewer praised her work as "full of insight and wisdom and pity, technically dazzling." The next year, in 1950, she became the first African-American to win the Pulitzer Prize.

She said about her poetry: "I wrote about what I saw and heard in the street. I lived in a small second-floor apartment at the corner, and I could look first on one side and then the other. There was my material." Writer's Almanac

It didn't occur to me that my books would be widely read at all, and that enabled me to write anything I wanted to. And even once I realized that they were being read, I still wrote as if I were writing in secret. That's how one has to write anyway — in secret.

 Louise Erdrich

The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.

 Mark Twain

Give every day the chance to become the most beautiful day of your life.

 Mark Twain

When we remember we are all mad, the mysteries disappear and life stands explained.

If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man.

Mark Twain

"Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody."

 The Moon and Mark Twain and Halley's Comet

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There is a famous quote by the American writer Mark Twain (1835–1910), taken from his satirical travel guide »A Tramp Abroad«, published in 1880: »Everyone is a moon, and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody.« He alludes to the astronomical fact that the Moon only turns one side towards the Earth, due to its synchronous rotation. The reverse side of the Moon remains hidden to us when observed from Earth.

In this narrative, Mark Twain describes a journey of two friends who travel through Germany and Italy. The Moon and the moonlight was mentioned several times in this book and was also applied as stylistic means. Further, it contains many drawings where the full moon is depicted.

Mark Twain had a great interest in astronomy. He was born, shortly after Halley’s Comet became visible (November 1835) and was hoping to die around the time of the next sighting of the comet (April 1910). He used to say, »I came in with Halley’s Comet in 1835. It is coming again next year, and I expect to go out with it. It will be the greatest disappointment of my life if I don’t.« Indeed, he passed away exactly at that time. Sometimes unbelievable things happen …

Once you are clear about what you are doing and why, other people’s opinions will not matter.

 Sadhguru

Meditation is like a homecoming, a way to settle at your innermost core. Sadhguru

Dreams are lovely, but passion is what an artist needs — a passion for the work. That’s all that can carry you through the hard times.

Find the reward of your work in the work itself. May it bring you joy.

URSULA K. LE GUIN

Thursday, June 06, 2024

Henry David Thoreau

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Without exercise, you may also miss out on the mood-boosting benefit of endorphins. You might feel like you're in a fog or just otherwise tired, unmotivated, stressed or down.

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Stimulants

I love stimulants and when I run out of chances to drink tea and coffee I swim. When I was in high school I discovered coffee & tea while friends were discovering drugs and alcohol, coffee and tea were my high.

Healthy Brain

We don’t often think about brain health. But research continues to demonstrate that it’s just as important to pay attention to the health of our brain as that of our heart

Fortunately, there are steps we can take every day to keep our brains healthy as we age. Here are seven daily rituals you can easily adopt that are good for your aging brain.

1. Eating well for a healthy brain

What you eat impacts your brain and its overall functioning. There are general rules you can easily follow to eat well and support your brain’s health.

  • Be sure to include vegetables, fruits, herbs, nuts, beans, and whole grains in your regular diet.  
  • Meals should be focused on plant-based foods, but may include moderate amounts of dairy, poultry, eggs and seafoodRed meat should only be enjoyed occasionally.  
  • Steer clear of high-sugar content and processed foods and opt for foods that are high in protein and low in saturated fat.

2. Your brain needs exercise too

It’s important to get regular exercise to keep your brain healthy.

  • Physical activity increases oxygen-rich blood flow to the parts of the brain responsible for thinking.  
  • Exercise helps increase the connections between brain cells (synapses).  These new synapses make the brain more efficient, flexible, and adaptive, resulting in better brain function.  
  • Walking for 30 minutes each day, taking a dance class, and swimming are just some of the activities that will not only benefit your body but also your brain.  Whichever activity you choose, be sure it is safe for you and that you enjoy it. Talk to your doctor before beginning any new exercise program.

3. Reduce stress and anxiety for better brain health

While our bodies are designed to handle normal levels of stress, too much stress isn’t healthy.  

  • People who are chronically stressed, anxious, or depressed tend to have higher levels of the hormone cortisol.
  • Too much stress can lead to cortisol buildup in the brain which interferes with brain functioning, often causing what some refer to as “brain fog.”  On a long-term basis excessive cortisol can destroy brain cells, resulting in brain shrinkage.
  • Mindfulness and meditation are also great ways to reduce stress and anxiety, along with exercise. Taking just eight to 12 minutes per day to meditate can help reduce dangerous cortisol levels and produce a sense of overall wellness.

4. Get a good night’s sleep to rest your brain

Sleep plays an important role in memory retention, alertness, and coping ability.

  • When you receive new information, your brain needs time to process and consolidate what you’ve learned and move that information from short-term to long-term storage.  Sleep is when your brain does all this “filing work” that is necessary to keep your brain organized.  
  • Sleep is also the time for “housekeeping,” when your brain removes a toxic protein known as beta-amyloid (commonly found in individuals with Alzheimer’s disease) from the brain.  
  • If you are not waking up feeling rested and refreshed, or if you constantly find yourself reaching for over-the-counter sleep aids, talk with your health care provider sooner rather than later.   

5. Successfully manage your health conditions and medications 

Heart diseasehigh blood pressurediabetes, and other health care conditions can put your brain and body at risk.  Working with your health care provider and following recommendations are critical to managing these conditions successfully.  

  • You may need medication(s) to successfully treat these diseases.  If this is the case, be sure that you are following the directions the prescriber has given you.  
  • If you are having side effects from the medications, or feel they are no longer necessary, don’t stop taking them without speaking to your health care provider.  
  • Make sure that any additions or changes you make to your medications, including vitamins and supplements, are done in consultation with your provider and/or pharmacist to assure they do not adversely impact those medications you are currently taking.

6. Challenge your brain by learning new skills

Research shows that learning new activities increases cognitive reserve in our brain. It stimulates new connections between nerve cells, and helps the brain generate new cells.  New learning is the best for building cognitive reserve.  

  • Try learning a new language, study how to play a new musical instrument, or take up a new hobby to increase and strengthen brain connections.  
  • Keep your brain sharp with other mentally stimulating activity, such as reading, crossword puzzles, or Sudoku.
  • The important thing is to do something you enjoy so that you stick with it long-term.

7. Stay social and keep in touch to give your brain a boost

Spend time with old friends and make new ones.  Research has shown that strong social ties are associated with better brain health, decreased depression, a lower risk of dementia, lower blood pressure, and longer life expectancy.  

  • Whether in person (taking proper precautions if a person has an illness or weakened immune system), by phone or video chat, or online through email and social media, be sure to keep in touch with others.  
  • Find opportunities to be part of your community by volunteering, joining clubs, and making regular dates to engage with others.  

There you have it – seven simple steps to keep your brain fit as you age.  Wake up refreshed, grab a healthy breakfast, take your medications as directed, head to a yoga classlunch with friends, and then start that master gardener class that you’ve been planning to take.  

Whatever you do, make sure it is safe for you, that you’re communicating with your health care provider, having fun, engaging with others, and living your best life.