Friday, July 11, 2025

The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. - Isaac Asimov

Carl Jung: The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.

 

Volkswagen Espresso 1959

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If people can be educated to see the lowly side of their own natures, it may be hoped that they will also learn to understand and to love their fellow men better. A little less hypocrisy and a little more tolerance towards oneself can only have good results in respect for our neighbor; for we are all too prone to transfer to our fellows the injustice and violence we inflict upon our own natures. Carl Jung

The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. - Isaac Asimov

Greetings from Little Rhody The Ocean State

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Thursday, July 10, 2025

#OTD in Rhode Island History @OTDRhodeIsland · 3h #OTD July 10, 1980, Nibbles Woodaway, the famed termite mascot for Big Blue Bug Solutions pest control—a staple of the city’s skyline—was born in Providence. Built by the Avenia Sign Company of North Providence, it was originally painted purple, and eventually faded to blue.

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Karun Pal @karunpal Introverts often struggle with relationships because they see too much. They read tension instantly. They spot defense mechanisms from a mile away. They can sense what someone's hiding just from how they talk. That level of awareness makes people deeply uncomfortable. Not because you judge them, but because you see them. Most people are still running from themselves, and you're a mirror they don't want to look into. You want real conversations, but everyone else is still playing pretend. People will call you intense. Too deep. Too much. They'll make you feel like your emotional intelligence is a problem instead of a strength. It's lonely being the one who sees things most people don't. But keep going anyway. The right people will show up eventually ones who feel safe in your depth instead of threatened by it.

“Our culture peculiarly honors the act of blaming, which it takes as the sign of virtue and intellect.” --Lionel Trilling

“I’d read Kerouac when I was a teenager. That was profound... I immediately wanted to get on the road and start hitchhiking. And I did. I went all over—I went to Arizona, Oklahoma, Texas—just to get out there and see what it feels like. Everybody wants to try and jump off something that’s higher than he can handle, just to see if he’ll float quietly to the ground or break up on the rocks. Everybody wants to see what the world’s made of and wants to see what they’re made of.” — Tom Waits

The nearest I have to a rule is a Post-It on the wall in front of my desk saying “Faire et se taire” (Flaubert), which I translate for myself as “Shut up and get on with it.” Helen Simpson

The Modern Diner is FOR SALE

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Karl Shallowhorn

 

When it comes to living with [our current situation] prioritizing your self-care is key in managing symptoms and balancing moods.

One thing I know about my bipolar disorder is that it usually has me going a million miles an hour — and that’s not even when I’m manic. I tend to approach things with a lot of intensity, and that can sometimes be an issue.

For instance, while it’s a blessing to have a job I enjoy, whenever I work a lot, I have to be careful about overextending myself. For a while, I had six-day work weeks for about a month. But, as you can imagine, it all came to a head and led to burnout. I crashed.

It was so bad, I had to take two days off work just to recuperate. Some of this time was simply spent practicing self-caresleeping and getting the much-needed rest I required. I also had lunch with my coach, who provided me with valuable advice on how to manage my time more effectively.

RELATED: 6 Simple Strategies to Reduce Stress and Balance Mood

The amusing aspect of all this is that I work as a mental health educator, and I’m always emphasizing the importance of self-care and balance. Well, I guess I need to follow my own advice.

5 Ways to Practice Self-Care

There are so many ways to slow down while living with bipolar disorder and implement the self-care we all need. In fact, let me count the ways:

  1. Meditate: I began doing this daily for 15 minutes each evening. Around a month in, I began to see results, not only mentally and emotionally, but spiritually, too. According to the Mayo Clinic, meditation has several health benefits. It can help reduce conditions such as anxiety, depression, irritable bowel syndrome, high blood pressure, heart disease, tension headaches, and sleep issues. Mindfulness meditation is all the rage these days, but take it from me, it works (see more below).
  2. Take a walk: I have a great dog named Sophie. The thing about Sophie is that she is part beagle and loves to sniff everything. So when I’m walking her, she forces me to slow down so she can explore. Whether you have a dog or not, taking a walk and breathing fresh air can do wonders for your soul and is an easy way to practice self-care.
  3. Breathe: And speaking of breathing, being aware of how you breathe is important, too, according to Cleveland Clinic. Most people are “shallow” breathers. However, by fully breathing and filling your diaphragm — or belly breathing, as it’s often referred to — it’s possible to slow down your respiration rate, which ties into the concept of mindfulness. By focusing on breathing and concentrating on a phrase or word (a mantra), such as “peace,” it is actually possible to diminish racing thoughts that can keep you perpetually wound up.
  4. Relax: This may seem like a no-brainer, but some people struggle with simply relaxing. This is probably the easiest form of self-care, and there are many ways to relax. (No, they don’t all involve sitting in front of the TV and binge-watching episodes of your favorite show.) Reading, crocheting, painting, crossword puzzles, or anything that serves as a “healthy” distraction can all be beneficial self-care activities when it comes to establishing downtime.
  5. Take a work break: Even when you’re at work, be sure to take any available break time. At certain jobs, the work environment may be more structured, such as in a manufacturing company or a position with regulated breaks. However, at others, you may have the flexibility to adjust the breaks you take. The bottom line is, we are not robots, and we need to be able to be at our best to do the work asked of us.

So, these are just a few suggestions you may want to consider. Ultimately, it’s beneficial to discover which self-care practices work best for you. There are certainly other ways that I didn’t list. The important thing is that they have healthy coping skills and not unhealthy coping mechanisms (yes, there is a difference).

Wishing you a balanced journey ahead.


Editorial Sources and Fact-Checking

  • Meditation: A Simple, Fast Way to Reduce Stress. Mayo Clinic. December 14, 2023.
  • Diaphragmatic Breathing. Cleveland Clinic. March 30, 2022.

Wednesday, July 09, 2025

[Jesus's] message is that we’re all sort of nuts and suspicious and petty and full of crazy hungers, and everything feels awful a lot of the time, but even so—one’s behavior needs to be better. One needs to be decent. Anne Lamott

Anne Lamott: Maybe your mind is lovely and pastoral and you do not suffer from paranoia, hypochondria, a bad attitude, and delusions of victimized grandeur. That is very nice, but we don’t want you in our cave after the bombs fall, because you are going to annoy us to death.

Homemade Buttermilk is great for everything

https://www.nourishingplate.com/recipes/chilled-cucumber-buttermilk-soup

chilled cucumber buttermilk soup

Ingredients:

  • 2 lb cucumbers (peeled and seeded if desired*), about 2 large
  • 2 ½ cups buttermilk, lowfat
  • 1 Tbsp fresh dill
  • 1 shallot, chopped (or red onion)
  • 1 lemon, zest and juice (about 3 Tbsp lemon juice)
  • 1 tsp garlic, chopped
  • Pinch of salt and pepper
  • Chopped cucumber, for garnish
  • Olive oil, for garnish
  • Toast rounds, optional

If desired, peel cucumbers, cut in half and scrape out the seeds with a spoon. Otherwise, chop cucumbers and place in a blender. Add the buttermilk, dill, lemon juice and zest, garlic, salt and pepper to the blender. Process the mixture until smooth. Cover and refrigerate until chilled, at least 1 hour.

Pour into bowls, top with additional fresh ground black pepper, chopped cucumber and a drizzle of olive oil. Serve with toast rounds if desired.

*If using English cucumbers, salad cucumbers or young cucumbers you do not need to peel or deseed. The peel becomes slightly bitter the larger and older the cucumber.

Serves 4

Saint Mary of Carmen Society Story

https://www.newtonbeacon.org/st-mary-of-carmen-society-says-removing-italian-colors-was-slap-in-the-face/

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/07/09/metro/newton-residents-outraged-over-removal-of-italian-flag-colors-on-adams-street/

Anne Lamott: I don’t think that if I live to be eighty, I’m going to wish I’d spent more hours in the gym or kept my house a lot cleaner. I’m going to wish I had swum more unashamedly, made more mistakes, spaced out more, rested….So this informs how I live now.

Anne Lamott: I know two things now that I didn’t at 30: That when we get to heaven, we will discover that the appearance of our butts & our skin was 127th on the list of what mattered on this earth. And that I am not going to live forever. Knowing these things has set me free.

Petula Clark Downtown. original version 1964

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