Sunday, December 31, 2023

AT LUNCH WITH: Marion Cunningham; A Grande Dame Of Home Cooking Is Still at the Stove

MARION CUNNINGHAM is a woman of conviction, with twinkling cornflower blue eyes, white hair slicked back in a tiny ponytail and a handsome, grandmotherly face. She also has a keen sense of the ridiculous, delivering her zingers in the style of a practiced comedian.

Tucking into a lunch of short ribs and roast fingerling potatoes at Craft a couple of weeks ago, she said, ''You know, dear, I don't like to see food too fancy.'' Pause. ''You don't know whether to frame it or eat it.''

Since 1979, when she undertook a revision of ''The Fannie Farmer Cookbook,'' first published in 1896, Mrs. Cunningham has never wavered in her devotion to simple American cooking. Let others follow prevailing fashion. Mrs. Cunningham would rather serve chicken pie and wedges of iceberg lettuce.

''I'm never seduced by ideas at the peak of their popularity, such as baby vegetables,'' she said, but she will admit to a fondness for mascarpone, fruit ices and sun-dried tomatoes, at least when they first came out.

Each of the six books that followed the Fannie Farmer struck the same homey note. And now, she said, although a little less convincingly when pressed, her newest book, ''Lost Recipes'' (Alfred A. Knopf), is her last. ''I have nothing else to say,'' she insisted.

Hardly.

The book is addressed to all who are tempted to give home cooking a second chance. What started as devotion to American cooking has turned into a one-woman crusade to get families back to the dinner table. No matter how the conversation went at lunch, Mrs. Cunningham, who will be 82 in February, always turned it to what has become her consuming passion and, she hopes, her legacy.

How has cooking changed since she went to work with James Beard?

''Cooking is really disappearing,'' she said. ''It's a greater loss than anyone realizes. If you don't share food around a table, preferably cooked at home, you won't know who you are or where you came from.

''The aroma of food being cooked has a huge effect.'' (It's one of the reasons she dislikes microwave ovens.) ''It matters because it's something that is uniquely coming from your family. It doesn't matter whether it's good cooking or bad cooking. People never forget what their mother cooked, even though sometimes they would like to.''

Somewhere between the short ribs and the homemade doughnuts, she warmed to her theme. ''Others may think after-school sports are good for children,'' she said. ''They should be home having dinner with the family. People are living a motel life.''

Mrs. Cunningham writes for people who shop in supermarkets, where, she said, quality does not match variety.

''The food is mass-produced,'' she said. ''It comes great distances from where you buy it. Everything is picked to be shipped. You really have to search around to find good beef and chicken. Everything has lost its intrinsic flavor.''

Technological changes like speeding up a chicken's growth and speeding up cooking worry her. ''Organic,'' she said, ''is a very authentic concept because it's saving the land,'' whether or not it tastes better. ''Alice Waters thinks it's better,'' she said of the notable Bay Area chef, who is one of her best friends. ''I'm kind of lost on that.''

Her disdain for the way food has been manipulated never comes across as the rantings of a cranky old lady. Her complaints are made in sorrow, and her annoyance is turned into the amusing put-down. She saves the best zingers for herself.

She suffers from agoraphobia and forced herself to overcome her fear of going out, but deep down, she said: ''I am a hypochondriac. I'd hate to have people think of me like that. But if I had my way, I'd walk around with a thermometer in my mouth.''

Instead, she is a woman who only last year gave up driving the 70-mile round trip every evening from her home in Walnut Creek, Calif., to San Francisco to have dinner with friends, a ritual she began after her husband died in 1988. She put 2,500 miles a month on her Jaguar, the only real luxury in which she has ever indulged despite her enormous success.

After ''three or four'' Jags she has turned to a Lexus and goes into San Francisco two or three nights a week.

''The engine,'' she said, ''is tons better. You know in a minute just because of the way it sounds.'' But she conceded she no longer gets the same deference in a parking lot.

How many octogenarian women know one car from another? How many spent two years running a gas station during the Second World War? She said she always wanted to own a station.

She cooks dinner for her friends two or three nights a week, grocery shopping in the morning after swimming laps and performing water exercises. It helps her lift the 50-pound bags of birdseed and corn kernels she feeds the pigeons. In the beginning, she said, only four or five came. Now there are 148. ''I've created a monster.''

Mrs. Cunningham was a late bloomer. She did not start on her career until she was 45, when she left California, her home state, for the first time and went to Seaside, Ore., to take cooking classes with Beard. She had been teaching cooking classes herself at $4 a lesson. ''I wish I could refund their money,'' she said. But Beard considered her the smartest student in the class, equipped with a critical palate, the culinary equivalent of perfect pitch. He asked her to help him in Oregon the following summer.

She became his alter ego, traveling with him for years. He recommended her to Judith Jones, Knopf's legendary editor, to revise ''The Fannie Farmer Cookbook.'' At 57, she became the author of a book that has gone on to sell more than a million copies. And when Beard died in 1985, she became the first lady of American cooking.

''I know people recognize me and say hello, but half the time I think I've met them and I'm so old I don't recognize them,'' she said.

Halfway through the doughnuts, which her critical palate did not think had much flavor, Mrs. Cunningham reconsidered retirement. She mused about starting cooking classes with her daughter, Catherine. ''The trouble with retirement communities,'' she said, ''is there's too much idle time. It's so depressing. I don't want to be idle.''

SAN FRANCISCO LITTLE JOES

Adapted from ''Lost Recipes'' by Marion Cunningham (Alfred A. Knopf)

Time: 15 minutes

3 tablespoons vegetable oil

1 onion, chopped

1 pound lean ground beef

1 pound fresh spinach, chopped

Salt to taste

Tabasco

4 eggs, lightly beaten

1/4 cup grated Parmigiano-Reggiano.

1. Heat oil in a large skillet. Add onion, and cook over medium heat until soft. Add beef, mixing with onion and breaking it up into bits with a fork. Cook until no longer red.

2. Add spinach. Mix well. Cook, stirring for 3 to 4 minutes, until spinach has wilted. Add salt to taste. Mix a dash of Tabasco with eggs, then pour eggs over beef. Stir until eggs set. Transfer mixture to a warm platter, and sprinkle with cheese.

Yield: 4 servings.

A version of this article appears in print on  , Section F, Page 1 of the National edition with the headline: AT LUNCH WITH: Marion Cunningham; A Grande Dame Of Home Cooking Is Still at the Stove.

Room with a View

I met the lady of my favorite cottage. She is selling it! It's a birdhouse view of the world. I would buy it just to see the view.

“Poetry should be written so that if you throw a poem at the window, the glass will shatter.” - Daniil Kharms, 1930

Coffee Cookies

https://olivesnthyme.com/coffee-cookies/

Make your own Espresso Powder for baking

https://addapinch.com/espresso-powder-recipe/

Sweet & Spicy Sriracha Gingerbread Cookies

 

ingredients

2 cups all-purpose flour
2 teaspoons baking soda
½ teaspoon sea salt
1 teaspoon cinnamon, ground
½ teaspoon ginger, ground
⅛ teaspoon clove, ground
¾ cup unsalted butter, softened
½ cup granulated sugar + 3 tablespoons for rolling, divided
½ cup light brown sugar
1 large egg
¼ cup molasses
1 teaspoon Kikkoman® Sriracha Hot Chili Sauce

directions

  1. Preheat oven to 350ºF and line a large baking sheet with parchment paper. Stir together flour, baking soda, sea salt, cinnamon, ginger and clove in a medium mixing bowl. In a separate medium mixing bowl, use a hand mixer to beat together softened butter, granulated sugar and brown sugar on medium speed for 2 minutes. Add egg, molasses and sriracha and beat for 1 minute longer. Gradually beat in flour mixture on low speed until fully incorporated.
  2. Add 3 tablespoons of granulated sugar to a small bowl. Using a two-tablespoon cookie scoop, scoop cookie dough and roll into balls. Roll each cookie in granulated sugar and place on cookie sheet 2-3 inches apart. Bake cookies for 11-12 minutes. Cool cookies for 5 minutes on cookie sheet then transfer to a wire rack to cool completely. Repeat with remaining cookie dough.

Master @master_nobody Dear friends, on this last day of the year, I've got one lesson for you: Love yourself more. You were born to Stand Out. Leave behind everything that: Didn't serve you. Drained you. Lowered your vibe. Let go of: Old ways. Old patterns. Old habits. Old friends. Old memories. Old things. Old places. Making this new year the best year of your life. A year full of healing, self-love, and becoming the highest version of yourself. A year of new beginnings. A year of creating a new you.


Inspiration!

 
THOMAS FARRAGHER

At 95, Dr. Joe Box dispenses comfort and grace

Dr. Joe Box and assistant Linda Irwin treat a patient during a field clinic in Guatemala in 2016. Harry Adler
EAST GREENWICH, R.I. — Among the many exceptional things about Joe Box — father, student, a master of medicine, and Renaissance man — is the prayer he sends toward the heavens religiously each night before he goes to bed.
“I actually pray that I can do something,’’ he told me on a sun-splashed springtime afternoon here the other day. “If there is a need, I want to do it. I pray that every night. If there is a need that I can fulfill, I’m going to do it.’’
That prayer, in all its poignancy and humility, is remarkable by itself.
Here’s what’s even more remarkable: Joe Box’s prayers have been answered.

 

He is still treating his dental patients. As he approaches life’s century mark, he’s got the energy most younger men would covet. The spring in his step remains strong during house calls that, for him, have never fallen out of fashion.
“I’ve learned a lot from Joe about how to live a life,’’ said Rick Benjamin, Box’s one-time patient and Rhode Island’s former poet laureate. “He loves well. He loves deeply. He’s just a magnificent human being. And I get to be around him.’’
I have a small idea of what Rick Benjamin is talking about. I got to be around him, too. And he’s a force of nature.
He’s 95 now. His hearing isn’t what it used to be. But his story is a panoramic one — cinematic in its breadth, and remarkable in its longevity.
There’s a magnetism about Joe Box. And over the course of an extraordinary life, nothing has dulled his centrifugal force.
“I have a young woman in my class who has had a tough life managing single motherhood,’’ said Darra Mulderry, Providence College’s associate director of the Center for Engaged Learning, who is Joe Box’s history professor this term.
 

 

“On the very first day of class, Joe mentioned that he had served in the Pacific and the student said, ‘Oh, my goodness. I’m sitting next to you for the rest of the semester! I want to hear everything you want to tell me.’ ’’
There’s a lot to tell. Nearly a century’s worth.
He’s got ribbons and citations. He’s led professional societies. He’s collected awards from politicians. The leadership of the Rhode Island Dental Association has named its award centered on ethics and dedication in his honor.
But his story stretches back more than a century to the foot of an extinct volcano in southern Italy, where parents — the children of sharecroppers – were born.
Joe Box was raised in a home across the street from Providence College. His father dug up corpses and then reburied them to make way for major state transportation projects.
His father was a righteous, quiet man. His mother – one of the two central women in his world – was larger than life. “The single biggest influence in my life,’’ he once wrote of the woman who taught him that the color of skin or ethnicity did not matter.
Integrity did. And so did hard work. She believed that. And lived it.
So he picked blueberries, delivered milk, and moved over to make room for the Providence College students his parents took in as boarders to help raise their four boys.
As a young student, Joe Box did not excel. He was bored. He daydreamed. He ditched classes to go bowling – until his teacher showed up on his parents’ doorstep inquiring about his student’s health.
 

 

“He said, ‘Would you come back to school?’ And I never missed a day after that,’’ Box recalled of a life-changing lesson that would alter the arc of his life and set him on a path that led circuitously to dental school in St. Louis.
A marriage lay upon the horizon, but first there was a world war.
The destroyer tender that would carry him to the Pacific Theater had a dental clinic aboard. It was near the commander’s office. “He kept on telling me, ‘You ought to go to dental school.’ And I kept on saying, ‘Yeah, who’s got the money for that?’ ’’
But the professional pieces of his life were slipping into place. And, in the early 1950s, so was the most important personal one.
Her name was Janice Drake. They met at a YWCA dance. When they discovered they were confounded on the dance floor, they adjourned to the bowling alley downstairs. It was the beginning of their 61-year love affair. “Our first date was at the drive-in theater on [Route] 146,’’ he said. “Don’t ask me what the movie was.’’
They were married in 1953. Joe set up his dental practice in Pawtucket and for 55 years, starting at 6:30 in the morning, he saw his patients. And then their children. And then their grandchildren.

 

“We played with the kids,’’ he told me. “The X-ray machine was Dino Dinosaur. When the chair went up and down, I would press their noses and raise the chair.’’
The kids loved it. And so did Joe Box.
When Joe and his wife read a piece in the Providence Journal about treating patients in the mountains of Guatemala, Joe Box raised his hand. I want to help, he told Dr. Steve McCloy. And that’s what he did. For four weeks each year for nearly two decades.
“He would work all day and he wouldn’t turn anybody away,’’ said McCloy, who worked alongside Box in Central America. “We were there with our pills and our potions but he was there really making a difference. I was in awe of that from day one. He’s one of the most generous and most soulful men I’ve ever met.’’
Dr. Cheryl Brodsky, an obstetrics and gynecology specialist who has witnessed Box’s work in Central America, said she expected her 90-something colleague to be somewhat frail. Not up before dawn. Not performing yoga. Not walking everywhere.
“You just saw him powering from patient to patient, chatting with them, telling them jokes,’’ Brodsky said. “He was tireless.’’
Tireless. It’s the word you hear frequently when Joe Box is in the conversation.
The kid who played tenor saxophone on Block Island. The service member who fought in the Pacific. The student who tells his young classmates about the end of World War II because he was there when it happened. The husband who held his beloved wife’s hand until her dying breath.
 

 

“My dad is extremely kind,’’ Suzy Box, Joe’s youngest child, told me. “Extremely present. He’s dedicated. A fantastic dad.’’
And with that, Joe Box, the man who has surely earned those words, flashed a small and satisfied smile.
Then he stood up. It was time to go to work at the life care center next door, where he would perform more dental exams, his life’s work.
Most people would call the patients who awaited him elderly. Not Joe Box.
To him, they’re just kids, the patients he’s cared for all his life.

Can We put the Year to Bed, Can we tuck it in at 8PM?

I do not care much about number changes. I care about seasonal changes, and weather and changes involving growth. Personal growth. 

Perhaps it's never to late to hear from a lost parent or abandoned sibling. I have a dozen!

Keep the door open. It's painful to be open but more painful not to be.

I read two memoirs concerning psychics this year. Food for thought. All creating is channeling whether making a soup, a poem or a painting. I never tire of reading memoirs even the occasional awful ones.

What I want to tell the world: Trust your gut even when you don't want to.

Friday, December 29, 2023

Remembering

Remembering when my mother wrote to Proctor and Gamble to complain about finding a bug in her Alpen Cereal. It was a lie! She knew she would be sent gifts from P&G. So she did it and was sent gifts. 

She had been a successful Art Director on Madison Avenue before she had children. She became a neurotic angry housewife who was addicted to speed (diet pills) and Valium, and terrorized everyone around her. The carnage is still visible even though she is long gone.

Man taught himself to read Now he shares his literacy progress on TikTok to inspire others.

Man taught himself to read

Oliver James kept it a secret that most of his life he couldn’t read. Now he shares his literacy progress on TikTok to inspire others.

 
Oliver James, 35, was functionally illiterate. He started teaching himself how to read in 2020, and has been sharing his progress on TikTok since 2022. (Courtesy of Oliver James)
 
Oliver James graduated from high school without knowing how to read.
“No one ever told me there was a reason to take school seriously,” said James, 35, who grew up in a low-income neighborhood in Bethlehem, Pa. “It was just a place I had to be.”
 
When James was in first grade, he was suspended from school. He was punished for being disobedient, and after only a week away from the classroom, “I couldn’t read like the other kids. They were so far ahead.”
 
That set the stage for the rest of his education, he said, and also his career prospects. Until recently, James was functionally illiterate. He could read some simple words, but not when they were strung together into lengthy sentences.
 
“I didn’t know how to maneuver around the world normally; I always had to do things like a person who doesn’t know how to read,” he said.
James kept jobs for only a week or two at a time, even when they required little to no reading, such as busing tables or bartending. He couldn’t read restaurant menus, street signs or text messages. He relied on voice dictation tools to get by. He felt ashamed of his inability to read, so he kept it a secret.
 
“I would just lie, lie, lie, lie,” said James, who had short-term jobs in hospitality, roofing and construction. He would get caught in his lies, which led him to lose jobs.
In 2020, James decided to make a change in his life. He wanted to feel more fulfilled and connected to the world. He decided he had to learn how to read. Plus, he said, he was hoping to become a father one day.
“I can’t have a kid until I read,” James remembered telling himself. “I realized, this is my time to figure out what I can do to grow.”
 
So he picked up a book and started sounding out words.
 
James’s first book was I.C. Robledo’s “365 Quotes to Live Your Life By.” His partner, Anne Halkias, helped him learn the basics, and they read together every evening.
“I would read the same quote for a week.” James said. “It was really hard.”

Gradually, though, he got the hang of it. Words turned into sentences, and sentences turned into chapters. After a few months, James was reading books — starting with shorter stories, then graduating to novels — cover to cover. The more he read, the more he wanted to read. He found it therapeutic.
“There’s nothing that compares to reading,” he said, adding that he has been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder, and that reading immediately improved his mental health. “When I couldn’t read, I couldn’t help myself.”
 
As his reading skills improved, James’s partner suggested he chronicle his literacy journey on social media to inspire others. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, 21 percent of American adults have low literacy skills.
 
“Why don’t you go on the camera, and be yourself?” James recalled Halkias saying to him one day. “You should just be honest and tell the truth.”

That was powerful coming from Halkias, who did not know for a time that James could not read, because he had hidden it from her.
James took Halkias’s advice, and in 2022, he started posting on TikTok about his long-held secret.
 
What’s up! I can’t read,” he candidly said in one video, having no idea how it would be received.
 
“It’s very uncomfortable to talk about things that the world doesn’t view as good,” he said.
Still, he opened up and shared his story publicly. He explained why he never properly learned how to read, sparing no details. The video went viral.
“When I was young, I was abused,” he said in the same TikTok. “… It was really hard for me to think about school, reading, anything that had to do with school.”
 
James was honest about the awful treatment he faced at an elementary school for children with special needs. He struggled with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder and behavioral issues, but never got the attention he needed to succeed as a student. He bounced from school to school, as he was repeatedly kicked out for rebelling.
 
“I had no guidance to show me what was right and what was wrong,” said James, who was raised by a single mother. “I was a kid, but I wasn’t being treated like one.”
Shortly after he graduated from high school in 2006, a fire at his mother’s apartment left James homeless for a year. He got caught up with the wrong crowd, made some bad decisions and ended up serving a 4½-year prison sentence for weapons charges.
 
“I was very ignorant,” he said. “I was a kid, so I didn’t understand the consequences of doing that type of stuff.”
After he was released from prison at age 26, he tried to get his life together. He became a personal trainer but soon realized “my passion was not in fitness,” James said, adding that his lack of literacy skills limited his ability to pursue other professions.
 
But as he began learning how to read — and sharing his progress with people online — James finally started to feel fulfilled. He routinely reads books live on TikTok and documents his progress, including the challenges.
 
“It feels like I found my purpose,” he said. “I’m finally contributing to the world.”

James is now a leading voice on “BookTok” — TikTok’s community of bibliophiles — and has amassed nearly 300,000 followers on the platform. People frequently reach out to tell him that his videos have encouraged them to learn how to read, too.
“That’s the best part of this whole journey,” said James, who received the 2023 Barbara Bush National Literacy Honors Award in October. “I went from being a person who didn’t know how to read, to a person who is now getting awards.”
 
James is now a motivational speaker, speaking at schools and literacy organizations. He considers himself to be reading at a fifth-grade level.
 
At the start of the year, James vowed to read 100 books in 2023, and he is on track to meet his goal. Of the 99 books he has read so far, his favorites have been Shel Silverstein’s “The Giving Tree,” Anne Frank’s “The Diary of a Young Girl,” E.B. White’s “Charlotte’s Web” and Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements.”
He has read a combination of children’s books and novels, and for more challenging books, he listens to audio recordings while he reads. He has also been practicing his writing.
 
James lives in Orange County, Calif., with his partner and her son, 10, as well as their 1-year-old son. He is hoping to grow his motivational speaking career, and perhaps write a book one day.
“These are things that I never thought I could do,” he said.
James is especially grateful for the small but significant joys that have come with being able to read. He delights in reading his son bedtime stories — something he always dreamed of doing.
“The world is totally different now,” James said. “It’s everything I ever wanted.”

Another batch of Seed Crackers

We made another batch of sourdough seed crackers last night and brought them to friends who live on  the shore. Unfortunately they were no longer crisp when we opened them today. The humidity made them BENDY! So funny!

UPDATE January 8th

I made them again just now and made them in a hotter oven. I never left the stove. The parchment paper got quite HOT and nearly burned...Buy a silipat silicone mat or bake cooler with parchment.

I also used coarse Goya brand YELLOW cornmeal as a topping to prevent sticking to the rolling pin. They are good. I made 3 blobs the size of golf balls and rolled them with cornmeal on top. Worked well. If you are near the water or are baking on a damp day the crackers might get BENDY from humidity. This happened to our crackers when we brought them to friends in Barrington last week. Just place them in the oven at 200 degrees to dry out. Go for it! have fun! XOXOXOXO

Lasagna Sheets, Dumpling noodles and other Lasagna ideas

I recently made lasagna from leftovers and it was so fun I made another... 

I found this online:

there are several substitutes for lasagna noodles that can still provide a similar taste and texture. Here are a few options:

  1. Zucchini - Sliced zucchini can be used in place of lasagna noodles, creating a low-carb and gluten-free option. Zucchini noodles, also known as zoodles, are thin and have a slightly crunchy texture when cooked, making them a great substitute for lasagna.
  2. Eggplant - Similar to zucchini, sliced eggplant can also be used in place of lasagna noodles. When cooked, eggplant becomes tender and has a slightly sweet flavor that works well with the other ingredients in a lasagna.
  3. Sweet potato - Thinly sliced sweet potato can be used in place of lasagna noodles, creating a slightly sweet and savory dish. Sweet potato noodles can be boiled or baked before layering them into the lasagna.
  4. Wonton wrappers - Wonton wrappers are thin sheets of dough that are commonly used in Asian cuisine. They can be used in place of lasagna noodles, creating a lighter and more delicate texture.

Overall, there are several substitutes for lasagna noodles that can still provide a similar taste and texture. It's worth experimenting with different options to find the one that works best for you.


Skewered Accordion Potatoes

 https://goodfoodbaddie.com/accordion-potatoes-tiktoks-new-craze/

Ira Glass

It’s hard to make something that’s interesting. It’s really, really hard.... Basically, anything that anyone makes.... It’s like a law of nature, a law of aerodynamics, that anything that’s written or anything that’s created wants to be mediocre. The natural state of all writing is mediocrity. It’s all tending toward mediocrity in the same way that all atoms are sort of dissipating out toward the expanse of the universe.... So what it takes to make anything more than mediocre is such an act of will.... That feels exactly the same now as it did the first week of the show.

IRA GLASS

Living

So when I peeked behind the rhododendron bushes next to the insurance company I saw a homeless man's cave made of greenery. I told Captain Arsenault. He investigated and said it didn't look like anyone was living there. 

Living is the relative word I said. I mean there wasn't a coffee table with a remote. There were liquor bottles, clothes, and adult diapers. I've seen this in the cemetery and along the reservoir. Would the police captain not understand this was living for the homeless man. How come I knew this? Was Capt. Arsenault too removed in his suburban ranch with heated garage floors to understand what I was seeing? I walk the streets. He drives an SUV. I know homeless encampments.

Boston Millnery Cloche Hat

 Alice cloche hat a 1920s vintage style in red velvet with red satin rose brooch Boston Millinery

Alice Hoffman

“Books may well be the only true magic.”
Alice Hoffman

“Sometimes the right thing feels all wrong until it is over and done with.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“There are some things, after all, that Sally Owens knows for certain: Always throw spilled salt over your left shoulder. Keep rosemary by your garden gate. Add pepper to your mashed potatoes. Plant roses and lavender, for luck. Fall in love whenever you can.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“My darling girl, when are you going to realize that being normal is not necessarily a virtue? It rather denotes a lack of courage." - Aunt Frances”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“It doesn't matter what people tell you. It doesn't matter what they might say. Sometimes you have to leave home. Sometimes, running away means you're headed in the exact right direction.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“The moon is always jealous of the heat of the day, just as the sun always longs for something dark and deep.”
Alice Hoffman , Practical Magic

“When I walk, I walk with you. Where I go, you're with me always.”
Alice Hoffman, The Story Sisters
“People hide their truest nature. I understood that; I even applauded it. What sort of world would it be if people bled all over the sidewalks, if they wept under trees, smacked whomever they despised, kissed strangers, revealed themselves?”
Alice Hoffman, The Ice Queen

“Every fairy tale had a bloody lining. Every one had teeth and claws.”
Alice Hoffman, The Ice Queen
“You build your world around someone, and then what happens when he disappears? Where do you go- into pieces, into atoms, into the arms of another man? You go shopping, you cook dinner, you work odd hours, you make love to someone else on June nights. But you're not really there, you're someplace else where there is blue sky and a road you don't recognize. If you squint your eyes, you think you see him, in the shadows, beyond the trees. You always imagine that you see him, but he's never there. It's only his spirit, that's what's there beneath the bed when you kiss your husband, there when you send your daughter off to school. It's in your coffee cup, your bathwater, your tears. Unfinished business always comes back to haunt you, and a man who swears he'll love you forever isn't finished with you until he's done.”
Alice Hoffman, Here on Earth

“If every life is a river, then it's little wonder that we do not even notice the changes that occur until we are far out in the darkest sea. One day you look around and nothing is familiar, not even your own face.
My name once meant daughter, grandaughter, friend, sister, beloved. Now those words mean only what their letters spell out; Star in the night sky. Truth in the darkness.
I have crossed over to a place where I never thought I'd be. I am someone I would have never imagined. A secret. A dream. I am this, body and soul. Burn me. Drown me. Tell me lies. I will still be who I am.”
Alice Hoffman, Incantation

“Trouble is just like love, after all; it comes in unannounced and takes over before you've had a chance to reconsider, or even to think.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“...he had a way of taking your hand which made it clear he'd have to be the one to let go.”
Alice Hoffman, Local Girls

“When all is said and done, the weather and love are the two elements about which one can never be sure.”
Alice Hoffman, Here on Earth

“Do you ever just put your arms out and just spin and spin and spin? Well, that's what love is like; everything inside of you tells you to stop before you fall, but for some reason you just keep going.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“I dream of a love that even time will lie down and be still for.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“Pride is a funny thing; it can make what is truly worthless appear to be a treasure.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“Be careful what you wish for. I know that for a fact. Wishes are brutal, unforgiving things. They burn your tongue the moment they're spoken and you can never take them back.”
Alice Hoffman, The Ice Queen

“Just because something is unspoken doesn't mean that it disappears.”
Alice Hoffman, Incantation

“Unrequited love is so boring. Weeping under a blue-black sky is for suckers or maniacs.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“Some things, when they change, never do return to the way they once were. Butterflies for instance, and women who've been in love with the wrong man too often.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“Every problem has a solution, although it may not be the outcome that was originally hoped for or expected.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“The weak are cruel. The strong have no need to be.”
Alice Hoffman, The Foretelling

“You can be betrayed in your sleep. The whole world can tilt while you're dreaming of butterflies. ”
Alice Hoffman, The Ice Queen

“Here is the riddle of love: Everything it gives to you, it takes away.”
Alice Hoffman, The Dovekeepers

“Once you know some things, you can't unknow them. It's a burden that can never be given away.”
Alice Hoffman, Incantation

“My grief was cold. It was nothing to share. It was nothing to speak about, nothing to feel.”
Alice Hoffman, Green Angel

“Here's the thing about luck...you don't know if it's good or bad until you have some perspective.”
Alice Hoffman, Local Girls

“No one knows you like a person with whom you've shared a childhood. No one will ever understand you in quite the same way.”
Alice Hoffman, Practical Magic

“The sky is already purple; the first few stars have appeared, suddenly, as if someone had thrown a handful of silver across the edge of the world.”
Alice Hoffman, Here on Earth

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Alicia Andrzejewski is an assistant professor in William & Mary’s English department. Her work has appeared in publications such as Shakespeare Studies, Literary Hub, American Theater, The Boston Globe, Electric Literature, LA Review of Books, and others. Her current book project argues for the transgressive force of pregnancy in Shakespeare’s oeuvre and the expansive ways in which early modern people thought about the pregnant body.

Speed Dating

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Richard A. Friedman MD is a professor of clinical psychiatry and director of the Psychopharmacology Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College.

Is swimming in cold water good for you?

Q: I keep hearing about the benefits of swimming in cold water. Is it actually good for you?

A: There is intriguing preliminary evidence that swimming in cold water may have antidepressant effects.

One study, conducted in Britain in 2020, reported that swimming in the cold ocean reduced depressed mood up to 10 times as much as it did in a group of controls who watched the swimmers from the beach. And a separate case report found that a woman with treatment-resistant depression experienced significant improvement in her depressive symptoms after swimming in cold seawater once a week.

But studies about the mental health benefits of cold water swimming tend to involve swimming with other people, so it’s hard to know whether it’s the socializing with others — or the swimming itself — that provides most of the observed antidepressant effect.

Still, cold water exposure has arousing and stimulating effects, and it appears to increase many substances that we know are involved in regulating mood. For example, studies that immerse healthy subjects in cold water show a spike in the stress hormones cortisol and norepinephrine. This is the same response that humans and animals have to danger and threat, and it is part of our hard-wired flight or fight reflex that affords enormous survival advantage.

Also, exposure to cold water causes release of endorphin and dopamine, which are neurotransmitters that convey a sense of pleasure.

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I’m familiar with this feeling. On a recent hot night, I ran off to a large outdoor pool in Manhattan that was full of delightfully cool water. It was initially stimulating, but soon after I starting swimming, I was overtaken by a feeling of tranquil euphoria probably brought about, in part, by an endorphin rush in my brain.

And just this past weekend, I swam in a 1.3-mile open-water race in Provincetown, Mass., with my husband. I’ve done it 23 times before — that’s how great the experience is. It’s challenging in unpredictable ways each time, but one thing is constant: The rapture of swimming in cool water.

As a psychiatrist and avid swimmer, I’ve probably prescribed more exercise than antidepressants over the years. And since swimming is such a wonderful form of aerobic exercise that’s easy on the joints, I often encourage my patients to try it. And if you don’t live near a lake or ocean or have access to a swimming pool, a cool shower can have similar effects.

How cold does the water need to be?

The good news is that you don’t have to risk a polar plunge to reap the potential benefits of cold water. Cold water is typically defined as water below 60 degrees, which is very cold indeed. But we know that cool water, say around 70 degrees, can effectively trigger the “diving reflex” and increase parasympathetic activity, which is calming.

Furthermore, exposure to just modestly chilly water, between 60 and 70 degrees, has been shown to boost dopamine and endorphin levels. You can easily achieve this in your shower at home, by gradually turning down the hot water and slowly habituating yourself to cooler water over a week or so.

There is even preliminary evidence that adapting to progressively cooler showers has antidepressant effects. It might also, like cold immersion, promote something we call cross-adaptation and make you less stressed in response to other adverse situations. For example, one study of healthy young men who had been habituated to cold water showed lower stress responses to exercising in a low-oxygen situation, which is unpleasant and hard, than those who had not been previously exposed to cold water.

What are the risks of swimming in cold water?

Contrary to what you may have heard from cold water enthusiasts, cold water plunges are definitely not for everyone and they are not without risk. One major reason is that cold water exposure activates both components of our autonomic nervous system, which have opposing effects.

How you enter the water matters. If you enter the water without getting your face wet, it triggers the sympathetic system, which increases heart rate and blood pressure, sometimes dramatically. In contrast, when cold water hits your face, you get the diving reflex, which activates the parasympathetic system via the vagus nerve, which lowers heart rate and slows things down.

The net effect of these two competing neural reflexes is highly variable. In some individuals with known or perhaps covert heart disease, it can trigger a potentially fatal cardiac arrhythmia — even in apparently young healthy people.

Some people respond immediately to cold water immersion with cold shock, which involves uncontrollable hyperventilation, fatigue, disorientation and can end in drowning. Of course, there is also the risk of hypothermia with prolonged exposure to cold water, so people should be mindful of these potential risks before plunging into frigid water.

The notion that cold water has healing properties is quite old. In 400 B.C., Hippocrates recommended cold water therapy to allay lassitude. More recently there’s been a lot of enthusiasm about the supposed physical and mental health benefits of cold water immersion. Many of the claims — that a frigid plunge can help you say goodbye to depression, chronic pain of all sorts and turn the clock back on aging — are unproven and well ahead of the science.

But as scorching heat becomes more common — with some parts of the country enduring it year-round — there’s another compelling reason to head for the water: It’s not only a powerful way to boost mood, energy and cognitive function, it’s a refreshing and fast way to cool off.

Richard A. Friedman MD is a professor of clinical psychiatry and director of the Psychopharmacology Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College.

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Swimming Injuries

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Swimmer's Shoulder

Swimmer’s shoulder is any of a few types of shoulder issues that cause pain, weakness and instability. Providers group them together as swimmer’s shoulder because it’s common among high-level swimmers or people who train competitively. You’ll need at least a few weeks of rest, at-home treatments and physical therapy to help your shoulder heal.

Overview

Swimmer’s shoulder is a broad term that providers use to describe irritation and damage in your shoulder joint.
Swimmer’s shoulder happens when extra stress irritates tissue in your shoulder. The irritated tissue develops tiny tears.

What is swimmer’s shoulder?

Swimmer’s shoulder causes shoulder pain, weakness and other symptoms in your shoulder joint. It’s a broad name for a few different issues that cause similar symptoms.

It gets its name from who it usually affects — swimmers and other athletes who use their shoulders a lot to move their arms overhead.

Your shoulder is a complex joint where bones, muscles and connective tissue (tendons and ligaments) come together to let you move your arms. If you swim, play another sport that puts stress on your shoulder or do physical work, you’re more likely to irritate tissue in your shoulder.

Visit a healthcare provider if you have shoulder pain that lasts longer than a week.

Types of swimmer’s shoulder

Healthcare providers refer to several different shoulder conditions as swimmer’s shoulder. Your provider might say that you have a more specific issue, including:

  • Shoulder impingement syndrome: Pain that happens when the top outer edge of your shoulder blade (scapula) pinches your rotator cuff beneath it.
  • Rotator cuff tendinitis: Rotator cuff tendinitis is exactly what its name sounds like — tendinitis that affects your rotator cuff. Tendinitis is swelling or irritation of a tendon.
  • Shoulder labrum injuries: Your shoulder labrum is a layer of cartilage that protects and stabilizes your shoulder joint.
  • Shoulder muscle strains: Muscle strains (pulled muscles) are injuries that cause a muscle to tear.
  • Pinched nerves: Pinched nerves happen when tissue around a nerve traps it or puts too much pressure on it and makes it send pain signals to your brain.

How common is swimmer’s shoulder?

It’s hard to know exactly how common swimmer’s shoulder is because providers use the term as a catch-all for so many different types of shoulder issues. Experts estimate that at least one-third of elite competitive swimmers have had some type of swimmer’s shoulder.

However, it’s probably even more common than that, especially among amateur athletes, people who play other sports and people who hurt their shoulders doing physical work.

Symptoms and Causes

What are swimmer’s shoulder symptoms?

The most common swimmer’s shoulder symptoms include:

  • Shoulder pain.
  • Muscle weakness.
  • Reduced range of motion (how far you can comfortably move your shoulder).
  • Shoulder weakness or instability.

What causes swimmer’s shoulder?

Swimmer’s shoulder happens when something puts repeated stress and strain on your shoulder joint. Over time, the extra stress irritates your tissue. The irritated tissue develops tiny tears, leading to inflammation and scar tissue. This damage prevents your joint from moving smoothly.

It might sound obvious, but swimming is the most common cause of swimmer’s shoulder. More specifically, training competitively or swimming often for exercise causes it. Swimming is great exercise, but it can put a lot of pressure on your shoulder joints — especially if you’re intentionally pushing your body to improve your strength, speed and race times.

Any activity or job that makes you use your shoulder for a repetitive motion with your arms over your head can cause swimmer’s shoulder. It’s common in sports that require lots of throwing (like baseball) or physical jobs (like swinging a hammer or using heavy tools).

Diagnosis and Tests

How is swimmer’s shoulder diagnosed?

A healthcare provider will diagnose swimmer’s shoulder with a physical exam. They’ll examine your shoulder and ask about your symptoms. Tell your provider when you first noticed pain or other symptoms and if any activities make them worse.

Your provider will also check your shoulder’s range of motion (how far you can move it) and strength. They’ll compare it to your other, uninjured shoulder.

Swimmer’s shoulder tests

You may need imaging tests to take pictures of your shoulder joint and the tissue around it, including:

Management and Treatment

What are swimmer’s shoulder treatments?

Your provider will suggest treatments to relieve your pain and reduce stress on your shoulder joint. The goal of treating swimmer’s shoulder is to prevent more damage inside your joint and to help your shoulder regain its normal function. The most common swimmer’s shoulder treatments include:

  • Rest: Stop physical activity that uses your shoulder — especially the sport or activity that caused the swimmer’s shoulder. Your provider will tell you how long to take a break from training or working.
  • Physical therapy: A physical therapist will give you stretches and exercises to strengthen your shoulder and improve its range of motion. As your shoulder heals, they’ll give you exercises to strengthen the muscles around your shoulder.
  • Icing: Apply ice or a cold pack to your shoulder. Wrap ice packs in a thin towel to avoid putting them directly on your skin. Your provider will tell you how often (and for how long) you should ice your shoulder.
  • Pain relievers: Over-the-counter nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory medications (NSAIDs) can relieve pain and reduce swelling. Don’t take NSAIDs for more than 10 days in a row without talking to your provider.
  • Corticosteroids: Corticosteroids are prescription medications that reduce inflammation. You may need cortisone shots injected directly into your shoulder joint.
  • Ergonomic adjustments: You might need to change how you do certain motions or activities. If you’re a competitive athlete, you may need to tweak your posture or positioning when you’re training or competing.
  • Swimmer’s shoulder surgery: Your provider might recommend surgery if other treatments don’t relieve your symptoms. They’ll tell you which type of procedure you’ll need and how long it’ll take to recover.

Can swimmer’s shoulder be cured?

Swimmer’s shoulder isn’t cured the same way some infections are — there’s no set end date when your provider can say that you’ve taken a full course of antibiotics and the infection is gone. But it’s usually a temporary issue.

Most people with swimmer’s shoulder start to feel better in a few weeks after starting treatment. Don’t return to swimming or other training before your provider says it’s safe, even if your symptoms are improving.

How can I prevent swimmer’s shoulder?

The best way to prevent swimmer’s shoulder is to avoid overusing your shoulders:

  • Stop training or physical activities as soon as you feel pain. Never force yourself to train or play through pain.
  • Stretch, warm up and cool down before physical activities.
  • Keep your rotator cuff and back muscles strong to support your shoulders.
  • Wear the right equipment for all sports and physical work.
  • Follow a diet and exercise plan that’s healthy for you.
  • Visit a healthcare provider as soon as you notice pain or other symptoms.

Prevention

How can swimmer’s shoulder be prevented?

You can reduce your risk of developing swimmer’s shoulder by:

  • Avoiding repeated stress on the shoulder whenever possible.
  • Practicing proper body mechanics when exercising or working.
  • Resting when your shoulder joint feels tired or overused.
  • Stretching and warming up before swimming or other sports.

Outlook / Prognosis

How long does swimmer’s shoulder take to heal?

Everyone has a different swimmer’s shoulder recovery time. How long it’ll take depends on how quickly your shoulder heals, and how much irritation or damage there was inside your joint.

It usually takes at least a few weeks to recover enough to resume training, but it can take a month (or longer) for your shoulder to heal completely.

Living With

How do I take care of myself while I’m recovering?

Don’t resume swimming or other physical activities before your healthcare provider says it’s safe. If you stress your shoulder again before it has time to heal, you’re more likely to reinjure it. This can increase your risk of more severe injuries like a torn rotator cuff or SLAP tear.

When should I see my healthcare provider?

Visit a healthcare provider as soon as you notice symptoms like pain, swelling or a decreased range of motion in your shoulder.

When should I go to the ER?

Go to the emergency room if you’ve experienced trauma, can’t move your shoulder or think you might have a dislocated shoulder. Never try to force your shoulder back into place on your own.

What questions should I ask my provider?

You may want to ask your healthcare provider:

  • Which type of swimmer’s shoulder do I have?
  • Will I need any tests?
  • Which treatments will I need?
  • Will I need surgery?
  • How long should I take a break from training or practicing?

A note from Cleveland Clinic

Any injury is frustrating for an athlete. That’s especially true when you’re training to perform your best and end up hurt. Swimmer’s shoulder might mean you have to take a break from training or working out for a few weeks, but that time off is worth it.

Don’t rush your recovery — listen to your body and give your shoulder all the time it needs to recover. The damage in your shoulder is temporary, but your shoulder needs time to heal before you can dive back into your training.