“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as
spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is
risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and
joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are
brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power
of our light.”
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“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful
selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual
connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness
and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make
every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to
be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
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“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”
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“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when
they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive
without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the
relationship.”
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“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our
authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can
never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and
courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage,
empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy,
accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our
purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is
the path.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and
perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your
life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's
often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the
following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage,
blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.”
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“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system
that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything
perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame,
judgment, and blame.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”
― I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
― I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
“Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe
in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of
uncertainty.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see
the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling
extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to
cultivate a sense of purpose.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve?" Perfectionism is other-focused: "What will they think?”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we
feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are,
which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole
heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a
life that doesn’t come with guarantees – these are risks that involve
vulnerability and often pain. But, I’m learning that recognizing and
leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with
joy, gratitude and grace.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“What we know matters but who we are matters more.”
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
― Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we're all in this together.”
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“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”
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“Nostalgia is also a dangerous form of comparison. Think about how
often we compare our lives to a memory that nostalgia has so completely
edited that it never really existed.”
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“What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.”
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“Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a
privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who
has earned the right to hear my story?" If we have one or two people in
our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and
love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we
have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our
imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of
belonging, we are incredibly lucky.”
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“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all
inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us,
and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in
love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of
perspective, meaning and purpose to our lives.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
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