Endangered whale makes ‘extraordinary’ 3,000-mile journey from the waters of Ireland to Boston

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Neuroplasticity 101 The Brain's Hidden Power to Heal and Adapt by Dr. Judy Ho

https://drjudyho.substack.com/p/neuroplasticity-101

Neuroplasticity is driven by what we pay attention to, repeat, practice, and emotionally engage with. It’s shaped by your habits, your thoughts, your environment—and what you choose to do with them.

When you practice a new skill or repeat a specific behavior, your brain strengthens the pathways that support that activity. If you imagine your mind as a dense forest, forming new habits is like carving a trail through the trees. The more often you walk the path, the clearer it becomes.

This is what neuroscientist Donald Hebb famously summarized as:

   “Neurons that fire together, wire together.”

That includes everything from how you speak to yourself to how you respond to stress. For example, if your go-to inner dialogue is self-critical—“I never get this right”—you strengthen those pathways. But with conscious effort, you can begin to shift those patterns toward something more balanced, and over time, that becomes the new default. The result is not only psychological relief—it’s physical change in the brain.

We love Soup! Colorful Vegetable Soup is Friendly

I had a small container of my frozen leftover lentil and potato and carrot soup. I expanded it by chopping fresh kale and adding it, some frozen corn, some whole canned tomatoes, a chicken bullion cube, Chianti, olive oil and leftover cooking liquid from beans. It was colorful and delicious.

“You can think of the Approach aspect of pursuing a goal as the part of your brain that wants to attain rewards, and the Avoidance aspect as the part of your brain that wants to dodge threats at all costs.”

― Judy Ho, Stop Self-Sabotage

“Much of your self-esteem doesn’t come from what happens to you on a given day or what somebody says, but what you know about yourself on the inside.”

― Dr. Judy Ho

Our body is wired in such a way that it doesn’t distinguish between a physical threat and a psychological threat.

― Dr. Judy Ho

I can hardly think of anything that pleases me more than writing a sentence that surprises me.

 Ann Beattie

A letter to the editor from surgical oncologist Michael Baum, on how Arcadia by Tom Stoppard, who died last week at 88, inspired a valuable new hypothesis on the metastasis of breast cancer:

 

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When Pie becomes Law

When pie becomes law—add cheese! For over 25 years, Vermont has proudly claimed apple pie as its official state pie, with the law explicitly stating that when serving apple pie, it should be paired with cheddar cheese. And who are we to disagree?

The Bill, passed by both House and Senate to become law 1 V.S.A. § 512, declares the state pie as apple pie and “when serving apple pie in Vermont, a “good faith” effort shall be made to meet one or more of the following conditions: (a) with a glass of cold milk (b) with a slice of cheddar cheese weighing a minimum of ½ ounce ( c) with a large scoop of vanilla ice cream.” 

Cabot co-op member Beth Kennett from Liberty Hill Farm in Rochester VT explained in a recent interview, “Apple pie without cheddar cheese is like a hug without a squeeze,” 

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Home Made Hummus

3 to 4 freshly squeezed lemons to make 3/4 to a cup of lemon juice

a cup of sesame tahini

3 to 4 large fresh cloves of garlic with core removed

a pound (2 dry cups) of soaked and pressure cooked Garbanzo beans also called chick peas with liquid strained out and saved

sprinkles of ground cumin

salt to taste 

I puree the cooked beans with the fresh garlic in my food processor while gradually adding some of the leftover chick pea cooking liquid. Then I mix the freshly squeezed lemon juice with the tahini and slowly pour it into the food processor combining it with the garlic, and Garbanzo bean/chick peas. I add more cooking liquid if needed. Add salt to taste and a dash of cumin.

The lemon salt and garlic make a triad a perfect balance of flavors. You will know it when you hit it! 

Freshly cooked beans and freshly made lemon juice and fresh garlic make the most spectacular hummus. I prefer to make a full batch and freeze it in three small containers. It works beautifully.

serve with parboiled carrots or steamed broccoli drizzled with olive oil and adobo.

Add chipotle sauce for some spice! 

vitamins and health benefits

The Robot says: You can turn things around

You can turn things around by focusing on shifting your inner mindset, making conscious choices, and taking small but consistent actions. This involves reframing negative thoughts, finding solutions, developing resilience, and taking responsibility for your choices. 

Shift your inner mindset

• Reframe your thoughts: Separate facts from interpretations. For instance, if a colleague speaks loudly, the fact is they spoke loudly, but the interpretation that they are attacking you is a construction to be questioned.
• Focus on what you can control: Instead of dwelling on things you can't change, focus on your own actions and reactions.
• Develop resilience: Recognize that failures are a part of life and build your ability to bounce back.
• Manage your feelings: Acknowledge negative emotions but then intentionally shift your focus to things that make you feel better or more positive. 

Take action with conscious choices

• Make good decisions: Understand that choices have power. Consistently making good decisions can add positive things to your life, while poor ones can lead to negative outcomes.
• Start with small tasks: Begin each day with a completed task to build momentum.
• Take risks: Step up to challenges and take calculated risks when appropriate.
• Be an example: Confront bullies, uplift others, and don't give up, as these actions can lead to a better world. 

Seek and accept support

• Find support: Look for people who can offer support in your life.
• Be patient: Some situations are difficult to change immediately. It's okay to be patient and revisit challenging beliefs later.
• Forgive yourself: Release yourself from the tension of mistakes by practicing self-forgiveness. 

Motion is Lotion

MOVE an injury versus RICE

Let’s call it MOVE:

Movement, not rest.
Options: offer other options for cross training.
Vary rehabilitation with strength, balance and agility drills.
Ease back to activity early for emotional strength.

https://thischangedmypractice.com/move-an-injury-not-rice/ 

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Maya Angelou

“The unpredictable and the predetermined unfold together to make everything the way it is.”

― Tom Stoppard, Arcadia

“Uncertainty is the normal state.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

“A man speaking sense to himself is no madder than a man speaking nonsense not to himself.”

― Tom Stoppard

 “Give us this day our daily mask.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

“We must be born with an intuition of mortality. Before we know the word for it. Before we know that there are words. Out we come, bloodied and squalling, with the knowledge that for all the points of the compass, there's only one direction. And time is its only measure.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

Tom Stoppard: Age is a very high price to pay for maturity.

 It's the best possible time of being alive, when almost everything you thought you knew is wrong.”
― Tom Stoppard, Arcadia

“It's no trick loving somebody at their best. Love is loving them at their worst.”

― Tom Stoppard

“What a fine persecution—to be kept intrigued without ever quite being enlightened.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

“Words, words. They're all we have to go on.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

 “I am not my body. My body is nothing without me.”
― Tom Stoppard, Rock 'n' Roll

 “Be happy -- if you're not even happy, what's so good about surviving?”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

“The colours red, blue and green are real. The colour yellow is a mystical experience shared by everybody.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

“The ordinary-sized stuff which is our lives, the things people write poetry about—clouds—daffodils—waterfalls—what happens in a cup of coffee when the cream goes in—these things are full of mystery, as mysterious to us as the heavens were to the Greeks.”

― Tom Stoppard, Arcadia

“It's not the voting that's democracy, it's the counting.” ― Tom Stoppard, Jumpers

“Words... They're innocent, neutral, precise, standing for this, describing that, meaning the other, so if you look after them you can build bridges across incomprehension and chaos. But when they get their corners knocked off, they're no good any more... I don't think writers are sacred, but words are. They deserve respect. If you get the right ones in the right order, you can nudge the world a little or make a poem which children will speak for you when you're dead.”

― Tom Stoppard, The Real Thing

 “Eternity is a terrible thought. I mean, where's it going to end?”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

We're actors — we're the opposite of people!

 ― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead 

There must have been a moment, at the beginning, where we could have said -- no. But somehow we missed it.

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead 

Look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.

“We do on stage things that are supposed to happen off. Which is a kind of integrity, if you look on every exit as being an entrance somewhere else.”

― Tom Stoppard, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead

Nightmare

The Murky Plan That Ensures a Future War

Who will benefit from the White House’s 28-point proposal for Ukraine?

By Anne Applebaum

Garrison Keillor

[...] some days I wake up at 4 a.m. with an idea in my head and tiptoe into the kitchen and make coffee and sit at the keyboard and feel outrageously lucky. 

Garrison Keillor from My Thanksgiving visitors The Column: 11.28.25

Anaïs Nin: Dreams pass into the reality of action. From the actions stems the dream again; and this interdependence produces the highest form of living.

Instead of going to the pub or park, Icelanders like to gather in their local pool

https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20200817-an-icelandic-ritual-for-wellbeing 

An Icelandic ritual for wellbeing

17 August 2020

Karen GardinerFeatures correspondent

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Every Icelandic town has a pool that serves a focal point for the community (Credit: Arctic-Images/Getty Images)

When Iceland reopened its public swimming pools after two months of closure, the nation was so delighted that queues formed outside pools at midnight.

Three months ago in the Icelandic capital of Reykjavík, hundreds of people queued outside the city’s largest swimming pool under the blueish glow of the midnight sun. As the date ticked over from Sunday 17 May to Monday 18 May, the excited crowd counted down until, at exactly 00:01, smiling staff unlocked the doors.

Instead of going to the pub or park, Icelanders like to gather in their local pool

The festive atmosphere outside Laugardalslaug pool was repeated around the city. The reason for the excitement was that Reykjavík’s public pools were reopening after eight weeks of closure due to the Covid-19 pandemic. The reopening had been announced a few days earlier on Facebook, where Reykjavík’s mayor, Dagur B Eggertsson, explained that the pools, which normally close between 22:00 and 06:30, would open early to ensure they could accept as many swimmers as possible while operating at half capacity, per Covid-19 precautions.

“Some people will be tired at work on Monday – but… first and foremost they’ll be clean and happy,” he wrote, adding: “See you in the pool!”

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The pool at Hofsós, a small fishing village in the northern part of Iceland, has magnificent views towards the ocean (Credit: Feifei Cui-Paoluzzo/Getty Images)

The scenes were testament to the affection Icelanders hold for their public pools. Every Icelandic town, no matter how small, has a pool, or sundlaug. Most are outdoors, heated geothermally, include a hot tub and are open year-round, allowing Icelanders to enjoy their daily swim no matter the weather.

“Lounging around in swimming pools and hot springs is a national pastime,” said filmmaker Jón Karl Helgason. “Instead of going to the pub or park, Icelanders like to gather in their local pool to get fresh air, exercise and discuss world matters in the hot tub.”

Helgason grew up accompanying his father to the local pool daily. Now he’s working on a documentary, Swimming Pool Stories, due for release in October 2020, which examines the culture of public bathing as an important feature of everyday life. It may seem odd that visiting an outdoor pool is an ingrained part of a cold-climate country’s culture, but the pool is as much a social space as a place to exercise.

“[It’s] often the focal point in an Icelandic community,” said Helgason. “Everybody uses it, from small children to the elderly and everybody in between. Many Icelanders will go to the pool daily, either on their way to or from work. Schools will use the pools for teaching swimming, while the elderly can attend water aerobics classes and enjoy a chat and a coffee afterwards.”

Filming has taken Helgason to 100 pools around Iceland, where he got to know the many different kinds of people who frequent them. “Guests come from all walks of life,” he said, “clergymen, writers, farmers, seamen, teachers, academics, labourers, politicians and celebrities.” Functioning as a meeting place for a cross-section of society can have a levelling effect, he believes; sitting in a pool semi-naked means that “all the trappings associated with class or wealth through one’s clothing are gone. Now you are who you are. Nothing more, nothing less.”

Records of public bathing in Iceland date to the 13th Century. In the west of the country, Snorralaug (Snorri’s Pool), a small circular pool used by Iceland’s most-celebrated literary figure, the saga writer Snorri Sturluson, is mentioned in Landnámabók (Book of Settlements) and Sturlunga saga. It was in the 20th Century, however, that pools became a fixture in everyday life, thanks to Iceland’s unique geology.

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Snorri’s Pool is evidence that Icelanders used geothermal pools as far back as the 13th Century (Credit: Thomas H Mitchell/Getty Images)

“Following an unusually cold winter of 1918, the population was severely hit by the Spanish flu,” write University of Iceland professors Örn D Jónsson and Ólafur Rastrick in their analysis of Iceland’s pools. The combination of the pandemic and rising coal prices, due to the war, “had devastating effects on the already fragile economic conditions in many families”.

To counter the cost of imported coal and oil, which had been Iceland’s primary source of heating, the volcanic island began transitioning to alternative energy by harnessing its rich resources of geothermal power, which were soon used to heat newly built swimming pools, as well as homes. Today around 65% of Iceland’s energy supply is geothermal.

The emergence of the swimming pool was dependent not only on the availability of geothermal power but also, the researchers write, “on the national significance that became associated with swimming during the formative years of the Icelandic nation state”.

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Reykjavík’s Laugardalslaug pool reopened in May after two months of closure due to Covid-19 (Credit: Nordicphotos/Alamy)

Iceland became a sovereign state in 1918 and achieved full independence from Denmark in 1944. During this period, attitudes towards swimming changed. There had previously been little emphasis on knowing how to swim, despite living on an island surrounded by the sea. However, as Iceland transitioned from a farming economy into a fishing nation, learning to swim became viewed as essential.

Lounging around in swimming pools and hot springs is a national pastime

Since 1940, swimming lessons have been mandatory for children. “It's such a big part of our lives,” said Brá Guðmundsdóttir, human resources manager for the Laugardalslaug and nearby Sundhöllin pools. “We start swimming with our kids when they are a few months old, then all the kids start lessons when they start school.” Weekly lessons, she said, are mandatory from the age of six until 16, when everyone is tested to prove they can swim 600m unassisted.

But beyond preventing drownings, swimming was elevated in the early 20th Century for what Jónsson and Rastrick describe as its “civilising effect”. It was related to the nationalist movement, Rastrick told me, “and, most specifically, the patriotic youth movement (Ungmennafélag Íslands) that promoted swimming… as a means to develop the physique of the members of the emerging independent Icelandic nation”. The link between medieval and modern Iceland was important for the nationalist movement, he added, so this emphasis on physical improvement linked “the bodies of modern Icelandic men to the heroes of the sagas”.

Why the secret to Icelandic happiness lies in their pools

In 1937, the Art Deco Sundhöllin (the “Swimming Palace”), Iceland’s oldest public baths, opened in Reykjavík, and, write Jónsson and Rastrick, “was seen as one of the most impressive symbols of the nation’s self-respect”. If the emergence of swimming in Iceland helped to foster the newly independent nation’s confidence, it’s a transformation that is repeated on a smaller scale every day in the pool as the warm water helps shed the typically reserved Icelanders’ inhibitions.

“Icelandic winters are long, cold and dark and our summers are not particularly warm either,” Helgason said. “This means we’re always heavily dressed, we drive between locations and there’s little opportunity for leisurely downtown strolls or public socialising outdoors. All of this makes for a nation that is reserved by nature. However, once we’ve stripped off those layers of clothing and entered the hot tub, we become chatty extroverts.”

That the pool fosters health in mind and body, as well a sense of equality, might be key to why Iceland regularly ranks as one of the world’s happiest countries. In his research, Jónsson asked people how they felt after visiting a pool. Almost all responded that they felt “revitalised”, in both body and soul. He added, however, that “there is very little exotic here, only a quest for comfort [that’s] affordable for everyone”.

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The 25m Seljavallalaug thermal pool in southern Iceland is one of the oldest pools in the country (Credit: Amanda Richter/Getty Images)

Jónsson also found that pool-goers usually don’t become close friends, “and that is probably the 'secret’ of the popularity of visiting the pools”. He describes the “thrown-togetherness” of gathering in public places as a “get-together without obligations” – much like being pleased to see fellow regulars at the local pub but without feeling the need to form deeper friendships with them.

Once we’ve stripped off those layers of clothing and entered the hot tub, we become chatty extroverts

The pool may be an essential feature of the local community, but visitors are always welcome as long as they respect etiquette. Little chlorine is used in order to maintain the purity of the water, so one of the most important rules is to first thoroughly wash, without a swimsuit, in the communal changing room. The lack of privacy can make foreign visitors uncomfortable, but it’s perhaps another example of the breaking down of barriers that the pool facilitates.

Many also talk of the positive effect of seeing “real” bodies in their imperfect flesh – a sentiment I recognise. When I lived in Iceland in the mid-2000s, unable to sleep in the bright summer light, I developed an early morning ritual of visiting the local pool. Surrounded by women of all ages and shapes, I felt the insecurities that come with being a young woman washed away in the communal shower.

Today, having effectively beaten back the virus, all restrictions have been lifted at Iceland’s beloved pools. The country is now also reopening to tourism. For those who visit, Helgason recommends a pool visit, because, he says, “there’s no better way to get in touch with the nation”.

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Swimming is a huge part of Icelandic culture, and swimming lessons have been mandatory for children since 1940 (Credit: Alex Walker/Getty Images)

 Living never wore one so much as the effort not to live. Anaïs Nin

Our life is composed greatly from dreams, from the unconscious, and they must be brought into connection with action. They must be woven together. Anaïs Nin

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born. Anaïs Nin

Our culture made a virtue of living only as extroverts. We discouraged the inner journey, the quest for a center. So we lost our center and have to find it again. Anaïs Nin

There is not one big cosmic meaning for all; there is only the meaning we each give to our life, an individual meaning, an individual plot, like an individual novel, a book for each person. Anaïs Nin

The personal life deeply lived always expands into truths beyond itself. Anaïs Nin

There are very few human beings who receive the truth, complete and staggering, by instant illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a small scale, by successive developments, cellularly, like a laborious mosaic. Anaïs Nin

Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death. Anaïs Nin

You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too. Anaïs Nin 

My mission, should I choose to accept it, is to find peace with exactly who and what I am. To take pride in my thoughts, my appearance, my talents, my flaws and to stop this incessant worrying that I can’t be loved as I am. Anaïs Nin

Had I not created my whole world, I would certainly have died in other people’s. Anaïs Nin

You’ll find the story will take on an energy of its own, like a wound-up spring, and then you’ll just have to follow it, like a fox hunt, over hill, over dale.

Janet Fitch

I Go Back to May 1937

By Sharon Olds

 

I see them standing at the formal gates of their colleges,

I see my father strolling out

under the ochre sandstone arch, the   

red tiles glinting like bent

plates of blood behind his head, I

see my mother with a few light books at her hip

standing at the pillar made of tiny bricks,

the wrought-iron gate still open behind her, its

sword-tips aglow in the May air,

they are about to graduate, they are about to get married,   

they are kids, they are dumb, all they know is they are   

innocent, they would never hurt anybody.   

I want to go up to them and say Stop,   

don’t do it—she’s the wrong woman,   

he’s the wrong man, you are going to do things

you cannot imagine you would ever do,   

you are going to do bad things to children,

you are going to suffer in ways you have not heard of,

you are going to want to die. I want to go

up to them there in the late May sunlight and say it,

her hungry pretty face turning to me,   

her pitiful beautiful untouched body,

his arrogant handsome face turning to me,   

his pitiful beautiful untouched body,   

but I don’t do it. I want to live. I   

take them up like the male and female   

paper dolls and bang them together   

at the hips, like chips of flint, as if to   

strike sparks from them, I say

Do what you are going to do, and I will tell about it.

Copyright Credit: "I Go Back to May 1937" from THE GOLD CELL by Sharon Olds, copyright © 1987 by Sharon Olds. Used by permission of Alfred A. Knopf, an imprint of the Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC. All rights reserved.

Source: The Gold Cell (Alfred A. Knopf, 1987)

 

you are going to do things

you cannot imagine you would ever do,   

you are going to do bad things to children,

you are going to suffer in ways you have not heard of,

you are going to want to die.

 

Why Swimming Is the Ultimate Stress Reliever

https://plungesandiego.com/why-swimming-release-stress/

Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed from a long workweek or just need a mental reset, few things match the calming power of a swim. The rhythmic movement, weightless sensation, and steady breathing create a meditative effect that naturally soothes the nervous system. At a public pool in San Diego, where the atmosphere is relaxed and welcoming, taking a dip can quickly become your favorite way to unwind.

Does swimming release stress?

Unlike high-intensity workouts that leave you drained, swimming offers a peaceful balance of movement and recovery. It’s one of the few physical activities that feel just as good during the session as it does afterward.

Many swimmers describe the experience as “resetting”, almost like hitting pause on racing thoughts. The water muffles outside noise, encourages mindfulness, and even slows your heart rate when floating or gliding. Whether you’re swimming laps or simply wading in a public pool, the effect can be immediate and lasting.

Natural endorphin boost

Swimming triggers the release of endorphins,  the body’s natural mood elevators, which are known for reducing pain and promoting a sense of well-being. These chemicals help counteract stress, ease symptoms of depression, and create a more balanced emotional state. The best part? Swimming produces this effect without putting too much strain on the body. Even a moderate swim can provide that uplifting post-exercise high, making it an ideal option for anyone looking to improve their mood while staying active.

Rhythmic movement = calm mind

One of the reasons swimming is so calming is its repetitive nature. The consistent strokes and deep, controlled breathing mimic the patterns used in meditation and breathing exercises. This rhythm creates a natural sense of flow that helps quiet mental chatter and brings your focus inward. Whether you’re swimming laps or gently gliding through the water, the structure of the activity helps slow down your thoughts, reduce feelings of overwhelm, and improve mental clarity.

Water as a sensory escape

The moment you step into a pool, your body is surrounded by gentle pressure and calming sensation. The cool temperature, the buoyancy, and the muffled sounds beneath the surface all create a unique sensory environment that promotes mental stillness. This break from noisy, overstimulating surroundings can help reduce stress and anxiety, offering a kind of sensory reset that few other activities can match. Pools in particular offer a serene space where you can step out of your routine and into a more relaxed headspace.

Reduces physical tension

It’s common for stress to show up physically – stiff shoulders, a tight neck, sore back muscles. Swimming promotes fluid, low-impact movement that stretches and relaxes the entire body. The water supports your weight, allowing for full range of motion without joint strain, while the constant motion helps increase blood flow and flush out built-up tension. As your body loosens up, your mind follows suit, creating a feedback loop that leaves you feeling lighter both physically and mentally.

Encourages present-moment focus

Unlike many forms of exercise, swimming demands a degree of mental engagement. You need to pay attention to your breathing, your form, your position in the water. That focus pulls you into the present moment, blocking out distractions like work stress, phone notifications, or tomorrow’s to-do list. In this way, swimming becomes a form of moving meditation, a time when your mind can stop spinning and just exist in the now. This kind of presence has a lasting calming effect, even after the swim is over.

Following this Munchausen's by Proxy Story

 https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/11/28/metro/ri-family-court-grandparents-rights-laila-naso/

Celebrating my Escape 1978 Thanksgiving Weekend

I escaped a dangerous abusive and life threatening situation in my family of origin.

Arthur Schopenhauer: Fate shuffles the cards and we play.

You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it. Goldie Hawn

It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves. William Shakespeare

Goodstuff Smokehouse gives back, wins fans

BLACKSTONE, Mass. – In 2017, brothers David Forgit and Kevin Miller opened Goodstuff Smokehouse on Main Street. Since then, the restaurant has had immense success and has always shared that success with its community, they say.

Every Thursday, from 4 p.m. to 9 p.m., Goodstuff donates 15 percent of proceeds to a local organization, such as the Cub Scouts, the Boys & Girls Club, or a local youth sports team.

“We’re a small company, so we have to break (fundraisers) down weekly,” Forgit said. “It allows us to spread it around more; I think every company should be doing a certain percentage of community outreach.”

The fundraisers have operated as a two-way street for Goodstuff Smokehouse, bringing positive attention and many new patrons.

“All charity essentially boils down to greed,” Forgit joked. “It’s selfish of us to do this because it brings us customers and pays dividends. When we do a fundraiser for a local softball team, Boy Scouts, church, or whatever it might be, They bring new customers and new fans.”

https://www.valleybreeze.com/news/goodstuff-smokehouse-gives-back-wins-fans/article_35d14294-3fa0-49fc-a257-698764c2d830.html

Yesterday a man in a Navy blue Toyota was driving out of the parking lot of Price Rite while biting into a cadmium orange persimmon.

Earlier there was man pedaling down my street carrying a bouquet of flowers with a gift tag and a huge purple ribbon. I noticed the purple ribbon come loose and fly into the street. I called out to him and pointed. He jumped off his bicycle and ran into the traffic to grab it.

This morning I saw a man with a serious expression walking in the sunshine. 

Butterfly Stroke for Beginners

 Last night my students and I tried the butterfly. 

We are never really happy until we try to brighten the lives of others. 

Helen Keller

Ruta Sepetys (Roota Suh-PET-tees)

 “My husband, Andrius, says that evil will rule until good men or women choose to act. I believe him. This testimony was written to create an absolute record, to speak in a world where our voices have been extinguished. These writing may shock or horrify you, but that is not my intention. It is my greatest hope that the pages in this jar stir your deepest well of human compassion. I hope they prompt you to do something, to tell someone. Only then can we ensure that this kind of evil is never allowed to repeat itself.”
― Ruta Sepetys, Between Shades of Gray

https://rutasepetys.com/about/ 

The foundation of all else is the recognition that serious work commences in the unconscious mind, or is first received there, and is transmitted in quantities and at rates always in control of the unconscious faculties. The prime skill and discipline, therefore, is learning how to serve and thus partly master that source and governor. The discipline, as usual, divides into spiritual and physical departments.

REYNOLDS PRICE

Unconscionable

 “We are now witnessing what the historian Richard Rhodes termed ‘public man-made death,’” Gawande wrote. 

USAID shutdown has led to hundreds of thousands of deaths

By

Karen Feldscher

November 20, 2025

Article 

The Importance of Rest and Recovery for Athletes

 https://www.uchealth.org/today/rest-and-recovery-for-athletes-physiological-psychological-well-being/

Exercising and Exorcising your Demons

 https://flowmountainbike.com/features/exercisingexorcising-your-demons/

Exercise to Exorcise

 "Exercise may be as beneficial as antidepressants," says researcher and medical psychologist James Blumenthal at Duke University. I would argue it's not just exercise, but exercise that burns, and thus burns out thoughts that lead to a sense of hopelessness. https://www.nextavenue.org/exercise-to-exorcise/

Comfort Du Jour

 https://comfortdujour.com/2024/11/02/cider-braised-collards-with-sweet-potatoes/

Nobody need tell you how to look. You just look.

Krishnamurti, Freedom From the Known

Anonymity is humility.

Krishnamurti’s Notebook

Society is based on ambition and conflict, and almost everyone accepts this fact as inevitable.

Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living 2 | Read

Love is anonymous. I may love my wife and my children, but the quality of that love is anonymous. Like the sunset, love is neither yours nor mine.

Krishnamurti in New Delhi 1960, Talk 8

 

The self can never be anonymous; it may put on a new robe, assume a different name, but identity is its very substance. This identifying process prevents the awareness of its own nature.

Krishnamurti, Commentaries on Living 1 | Read

One can live in this world anonymously, completely unknown, without being famous, ambitious, cruel. 

Krishnamurti, Think on These Things | Read

 

It is good to hide your brilliance under a bushel, to be anonymous, to love what you are doing and not to show off.  

Krishnamurti, Think on These Things | Read

A mind that is full of conclusions is a dead mind, it is not a living mind. A living mind is a free mind, learning, never concluding. 

Krishnamurti in Ojai 1973, Talk 3

The more you know yourself, the more clarity there is. Self-knowledge has no end – you don’t achieve, you don’t come to a conclusion. It is an endless river.

Krishnamurti, The First and Last Freedom | Read

You are the world and the world is you.

Krishnamurti in Saanen 1975, Talk 4

What we are, the world is.

Krishnamurti, Think on These Things | Read

If you as a human being transform yourself, you affect the consciousness of the rest of the world.

Krishnamurti in Madras 1974, Talk 1

The constant assertion of belief is an indication of fear.

Krishnamurti, The Second Krishnamurti Reader

Society is an abstraction. Abstraction is not a reality. What is reality is relationship. The relationship between human beings has created what we call society.

Krishnamurti in Bombay 1981, Talk 1

It is a waste of energy when we try to conform to a pattern. To conserve energy, we must be aware of how we dissipate energy.

Krishnamurti in London 1966, Talk 5

To live in the eternal present there must be death to the past, to memory. In this death there is timeless renewal.

Krishnamurti in Ojai 1945, Talk 10

Forget all you know about yourself

Forget all you know about yourself; forget all you have ever thought about yourself; start as if you know nothing. 

Krishnamurti, Freedom From the Known

Krishnamurti, Think on These Things

You must understand the whole of life, not just one part of it. That is why you must read, that is why you must look at the skies, why you must sing, dance and write poems, and suffer, and understand, for all that is life. 

Krishnamurti, Think on These Things | Read

Fostering Endangered Species

 https://reasonstobecheerful.world/foster-endangered-species-in-your-home-citizen-conservation/

filling a gap

How Brown University’s Pandemic Tracker is filling a gap in federal health data

People want to hear from people in their community. I do think, now, that people are very worried about the integrity of our health agencies, about funding cuts that make it harder to do the important work and research that keeps people healthy. ... The American people, despite the headlines, trust scientists, they value scientific research, and they want more of it. 

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/07/21/metro/ri-brown-university-covid-19-pandemic-tracker/

Vaccine Integrity Project

Providing trusted, science-based information to empower individuals, families, communities, clinicians, and policymakers to make informed vaccine choices.  

https://www.cidrap.umn.edu/vaccine-integrity-project

The Zen of Swimming: Finding Peace and Mindfulness in the Water

In the hustle and bustle of our modern lives, finding moments of peace and tranquility can be challenging. However, there is a serene oasis that offers respite from the chaos—a place where you can immerse yourself in calmness and embrace a sense of mindfulness: the water. Swimming, with its rhythmic strokes and weightless buoyancy, has the power to unlock a unique form of meditation.

Swimming can help with the meditative and calming aspects. We also explore how being in the water can promote mindfulness, stress relief, and overall mental well-being. Swimming lessons in Seminole, FL can help you achieve the list below.

The Flowing Rhythm of the Water:

Swimming provides an opportunity to embrace the flowing rhythm of the water, creating a soothing and meditative experience.

Consider the following aspects:

a. Focus on Breath: Aligning your breath with your strokes creates a rhythmic pattern that calms the mind and enhances mindfulness. Concentrate on the sensation of air entering and leaving your body, syncing it with the ebb and flow of the water.

b. Sensory Immersion: As you glide through the water, embrace the sensory experience—the gentle sound of water caressing your ears, the feel of coolness against your skin, and the weightlessness that envelops you. Immerse yourself fully in the present moment.

c. Mindful Movements: Pay close attention to your body's movements as you swim, from the extension of your arms to the propulsion of your legs. Focus on the sensations, the muscle engagement, and the symphony of motion. This mindful connection between mind and body fosters a state of tranquility.

Stress Relief and Mental Well-being:

Swimming has been known to offer numerous mental health benefits, acting as a powerful tool for stress relief and overall well-being.

Here's how swimming can help:

a. Stress Reduction: The repetitive nature of swimming, combined with the water's calming effect, can help release stress and tension. As you glide through the water, allow your worries to dissolve, and embrace a sense of calmness and serenity.

b. Mindfulness in Motion: Swimming provides a unique opportunity to practice mindfulness in motion. By focusing your attention on each stroke, you cultivate a state of present-moment awareness, leaving behind the noise and distractions of daily life.

c. Mental Clarity: The rhythm and repetitive motion of swimming can clear your mind, allowing thoughts to flow freely and providing space for new ideas and insights to emerge. It is a chance to disconnect from technology and connect with your inner self.

d. Endorphin Release: Swimming stimulates the release of endorphins, those feel-good hormones that elevate mood and promote a sense of well-being. The combination of physical activity, relaxation, and the meditative qualities of swimming contribute to a positive mental state.

Tips for a Mindful Swimming Practice:

To fully embrace the Zen of swimming and incorporate mindfulness into your aquatic journey, consider the following tips:

a. Set an Intention: Begin your swim session with a clear intention to be present and cultivate mindfulness. Leave behind distractions and fully immerse yourself in the experience.

b. Focus on Sensations: Pay attention to the physical sensations of swimming—the water's temperature, the movement of your body, and the sensation of each stroke. Engage your senses and stay anchored in the present moment.

c. Visualize and Reflect: Use your swim as an opportunity for introspection. Visualize positive affirmations or reflect on aspects of your life that you want to bring into balance. Allow the water to become a canvas for your thoughts and intentions.

d. Practice Breath Awareness: Your breath is a powerful anchor for mindfulness. Take deep and deliberate breaths. 

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Leo's 1980's Chocolate Pudding Trial number 3 (reposted from last year)

Leo's 1980's Chocolate Pudding Trial number 3 (reposted from last year)

I think this is it. This is the  famous LEO'S Chocolate Pudding recipe from Providence in the 1980's. I used to make this as a prep chef when I worked at Leo's. It was served in small 4 ounce custard or dessert cups. You can also fill a 9" pie pan lined with a pre-baked press-in whole-wheat oil crust. This is a half recipe from the restaurant.

Ingredients

6 ounces of unsweetened baker's chocolate (typically sold as a 4 ounce box), broken up (or roughly-chopped)

5 tablespoons of cornstarch (1/4 cup plus one tablespoon)

1/2 cup granulated white sugar

2 cups whole milk

1/4 cup (light) Karo corn syrup

1 cup of strong (hot, drinkable) coffee

1 teaspoon vanilla (try homemade!)

1/2 teaspoon of Kosher salt 

(NEW ADDITION) zest of one orange.

Directions

Mix dry ingredients (cornstarch, salt, sugar) together in a glass bowl (not the chocolate). Whisk in the whole milk, hot coffee, Karo syrup, and vanilla. Transfer to a heavy-bottomed pot and place over medium heat. Set kitchen timer for 10 minutes. Begin whisking and don't stop for 10 minutes.

When the milky cornstarch coffee vanilla liquid is hot, add the roughly-chopped unsweetened chocolate. And (optional but delicious) orange zest. Keep whisking. Have a spatula handy to keep all of the melting chocolate included. It will thicken in the 9th minute.

Pour into tiny dessert cups, 4 ounces is plenty. Enjoy warm or refrigerate. Serve as is or with whipped cream and a dusting of chocolate shavings or cocoa. WARNING: This might keep you awake at night.

Most of us live in a condition of secrecy: secret desires, secret appetites, secret hatreds and relationship with the institutions which is extremely intense and uncomfortable. These are, to me, a part of the ordinary human condition. So I don't think I'm writing about abnormal things. ... Artists, in my experience, have very little center. They fake. They are not the real thing. They are spies. I am no exception.

JOHN LE CARRÉ

 In the Gilded Age 2.0, the rich aren’t just different — they’re intolerable

The ultrawealthy used to leave legacies. Now they leave middle fingers. 

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/11/21/opinion/wealthy-intolerable-spend-money/

Boston Globe

My favorite Thanksgiving recipe: Reading poems

These verses have enriched the holiday for my family. Maybe they’ll speak to yours, too.

 Daryln Brewer Hoffstot is the author of a collection of essays, “A Farm Life: Observations From Fields and Forests.”

 

My husband loves all the trimmings of Thanksgiving, particularly mashed potatoes. I adore my grandmother’s recipe for Mamie Eisenhower’s Pumpkin Chiffon Pie. But I could skip the traditional meal entirely and be perfectly happy eating takeout, because my favorite part of the holiday is the poetry that we read aloud around the table.

This is not an old tradition for us. I grew up in suburban New York with parents who loved the New York Giants. Thanksgiving was a typical American meal with football on TV, hoots and hollers from the den, family members rooting for opposite sides. No one thought about poetry.

But as an adult with a family of my own, I began to imagine other ways to celebrate the holiday. And what better way than to pause for a few minutes to listen to poets who remind us to be grateful for so much: for one another; for the comfort of our lives compared to many; for love and justice; for children, music, and gardens; for the nature and animals that surround us; and for no wars … here, at least, at the moment.

 Robert Louis Stevenson has welcomed us to the table: “Lord behold our family here assembled / We thank Thee for this place in which we dwell / For the love that unites us / For the peace accorded us this day.

Maya Angelou has dined with us, too: “My wish for you / is that you continue / To remind the people that / Each is as good as the other / And that no one is beneath / Nor above you.”

We’ve read Czeslaw Milosz’s “Gift:” “A day so happy / Fog lifted early, I worked in the garden. / Hummingbirds were stopping over honeysuckle flowers. / There was no thing on earth I wanted to possess.”

And Naomi Shihab Nye, who wrote about kindness: “Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness / you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho / lies dead by the side of the road. / You must see how this could be you, / how he too was someone / who journeyed through the night with plans / and the simple breath that kept him alive.”

We read poems after dinner and during dessert. Sometimes just the family is present; at other times we’ve had larger gatherings with friends. No one has ever said no when I’ve requested he or she bring a poem to read. Everyone reads with passion and a strong voice. Some have written their own poems, others have read classics, and there are poems we’ve never heard before.

Elizabeth Bishop, Shakespeare, W.S. Merwin, and Mary Oliver have graced our table, as well as William Martin, who has reminded us not to push our children so hard: “Do not ask your children / to strive for extraordinary lives. / Such striving may be admirable / But it is the way of foolishness. / Help them instead to find the wonder / and the marvel of an ordinary life.”

During COVID-19, I read Pablo Neruda’s “Keeping Still”: “Now we count to twelve / and let’s keep quiet / For once on earth / let’s not talk in any language; let’s stop for one second, / and not move our arms so much. / A moment like that would smell sweet, no hurry, no engines, all of us at the same time / in need of rest.”

There was Joy Harjo’s “For Calling the Spirit Back From Wandering the Earth in Its Human Feet”: “Be respectful of the small insects, birds and animal people who accompany you. / Ask their forgiveness for the harm we humans have brought down upon them.”

And Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Write it on your heart / that every day is the best day in the year. / He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day / who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.”

Who wouldn’t welcome Wendell Berry to their feast? In his poem “The Peace of Wild Things,” when he wakes in the night feeling despair, he recalls the healing power of nature: “In fear of what my life and my children’s lives may be, / I go and lie down where the wood drake / rests in his beauty on the water, and the great heron feeds. / I come into the peace of wild things.”

Last year, our daughter went to her boyfriend’s aunt’s house outside Boston for the holiday. Before they arrived, the aunt emailed me and asked such a thoughtful and welcoming question: What are your Thanksgiving traditions? She wanted to surprise our daughter, to make her feel at home.

“We read poems,” I said.

And so they did.

https://www.bostonglobe.com/2025/11/23/opinion/poems-to-read-on-thanksgiving/ 

Your own self-realization is the greatest service you can render the world. 

Ramana Maharshi

The Most Amazing Chocolate Ever!

 

Joseph Green

 (excerpt)

Sunlight,

filtering through bare trees,

stains the bird a dark blue

 

that slips to black

like secret ink and makes sense

only as his feathers move.

 

Joseph Green from The Business of Crows (poem)

in his book What Water Does at a Time Like This 

Hydration and older adults: Why ingesting water matters more as you age

https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/hydration-and-older-adults-why-water-matters-more-you-age

The great enemy of clear language is insincerity. George Orwell

One small win before 9 AM sets the tone for 9 PM. Make your bed. Go for a walk. Journal for 10 minutes. Momentum is built, not gifted. Mel Robbins

The problem with waiting is no one is coming. The only permission you need is your own. Mel Robbins

You don’t need anyone else’s permission to be happy, to pursue your passions, express yourself more, or to live the life you’ve always dreamed of. The only permission you need is your own. Mel Robbins

2 eggs and a potato

A nutritious breakfast can provide long-lasting energy and keep you full for hours. A good breakfast is typically high in fiber, protein, healthy fats, and micronutrients. A nutritious breakfast can give you a good start to the day and may help prevent snacking.

Eggs provide protein, which is essential for muscle growth and maintenance. It can also keep you feeling full.

In a 2020 study, people who had eggs and toast for breakfast reported significantly less hunger than those who had bran cereal with milk and orange juice, suggesting a higher protein intake (25 grams versus 11 grams) may promote greater fullness.

The egg group also ate fewer calories at lunch, suggesting that eggs support satiety, or the feeling of being full.

Eggs also contain:

• lutein and zeaxanthin in the yolk, antioxidants that appear to support eye health and may have benefits for skin, liver, eye, and cardiovascular health
• choline, a vital nutrient for brain and liver health
• B vitamins, including folate
• vitamin A
• iron, calcium, and other essential minerals

Research from 2021 indicates that, in contrast with previous beliefs, there is no direct evidence that eggs raise cholesterol levels in most people, despite their high cholesterol content. Some evidence suggests they may have a mild protective effect against heart disease.

Eat eggs with other nutritious foods, such as whole grain toast, whole fruit, or sautéed vegetables.

The goal isn’t to get rid of all your negative thoughts and feelings. The goal is to change your response to them. Mel Robbins

John Thorne

Traditionally, Matt and I get Chinese takeout for Thanksgiving, a holiday I actively dislike. Despite its name, Thanksgiving is really the Family Holiday. Even Christmas pales beside it: that day's focus is on giving and receiving even more than togetherness. Strangely though, being alone on Christmas is to be almost hauntingly empty; you feel like a ghost. But being alone on Thanksgiving is rather wonderful, like not attending a party that you didn't want to go to and where no one will realize you're not there. At Thanksgiving, you gather with your family and stuff yourself with food as if it were love—or the next best thing —then stagger back to your regular life, oversatiated and wrung out. Christmas, however, creates expectations that are never met, so you leave hungry and depressed, with an armload of things you didn't want and can't imagine why anyone would think you did. 

He that uses many words for explaining any subject, doth, like the cuttlefish, hide himself for the most part in his own ink.
-John Ray, naturalist

Good prose should be transparent—like a window pane. The great enemy of clear language is insincerity. When there is a gap between one's real and one's declared aims, one turns instinctively to long words and exhausted idioms, like a cuttlefish squirting out ink.
-George Orwell

 When you wish to instruct, be brief; that men's minds take in quickly what you say, learn its lesson, and retain it faithfully. Every word that is unnecessary only pours over the side of a brimming mind.
-Cicero

When the family of origin is unsafe

When the family of origin is unsafe, it can involve physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, neglect, or the presence of issues like addiction or mental illness, leading to long-term impacts on an individual's sense of self, relationships, and mental health.

Such environments can foster patterns like difficulty with trust, poor boundaries, fear, anxiety, and challenges with emotional regulation. Seeking professional help through therapy can provide a space to address these issues, understand their origins, and develop healthier coping mechanisms 

Signs of an unsafe family of origin

• Abuse or neglect: Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, and physical or emotional neglect are all forms of an unsafe family environment.
• Family member issues: Having a parent or close family member with a mental illness or substance abuse problem can create an unpredictable and unsafe dynamic.
• Conflict and trauma: Witnessing domestic violence, experiencing frequent conflict, or dealing with separation or incarceration of a family member can be detrimental.
• Emotional and psychological harm: Emotions may be mocked, dismissed, or not allowed to be expressed. There can be a lack of accountability, with frequent apologies being rare or nonexistent. 

Potential long-term effects

• Relationship difficulties: Trouble with trust, forming healthy connections, fear of commitment, and codependency can arise.
• Mental and emotional health issues: Anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and a sense of shame are common consequences.
• Behavioral patterns: You might find yourself trying to prove yourself, being overly defensive, or exhibiting disproportionate emotional reactions. Other patterns include perfectionism, poor boundaries, and insecure attachment styles.
• Identity struggles: An unsafe family of origin can hurt your sense of identity and self-worth, leading you to internalize negative beliefs about yourself. 

How to cope and heal

• Seek professional therapy: A therapist can help you safely explore distressing memories, understand how past experiences influence your present, and develop new coping strategies.
• Learn about family patterns: Therapies like Family Systems Therapy or genogram work can help you map and understand the patterns passed down from your family.
• Set boundaries: Learning to set and maintain boundaries is crucial, especially if you choose to remain in contact with family members.
• Connect with supportive people: Finding a new, supportive community or social group can provide a positive influence and a sense of belonging.
• Practice self-compassion: Be patient with yourself as you work through these challenges. Healing from family trauma is a process.