Dealing with a Control Freak

Core qualities of a controlling or bossy person include a lack of trust in others, a need to criticize, a sense of superiority (arrogance) and a liking for power. They can also feel that they deserve things that other people might not deserve, and feel that they do not need to spend time with or show respect for others.[3]

Realize that your value is not derived from this person. You should always see yourself as an equal of the controlling person, even if his or her behavior suggests otherwise. This is crucial for your well-being. The control freak, especially if he or she is a family member, can really change your self-esteem for the worse. No matter how awful the person may make you feel at times, remind yourself that his or her controlling nature is his problem, not yours. If you let the control freak get inside your head, then he or she wins.^[8] 

Remember that you're the one who is rational and has reasonable expectations for what a person can and can't do. Don't let another person's unreasonable desires lead you to feel deficient in any way.