Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse: No contact is considered the only right option with a narcissist because of the way narcissistic abuse works. Narcissists don’t engage in relationships the way healthy people do — for them, it’s not about connection, empathy, or mutual respect. It’s about control, supply, and power.

 Here’s why no contact becomes the only safe boundary: 

1. Narcissists don’t change because they don’t see a problem. Therapy, apologies, or promises usually don’t lead to lasting change. They don’t see their behavior as wrong — they see your reaction as the problem.

 2. Every interaction is an opportunity for manipulation. Even if you think you can keep it "low contact," they will try to guilt-trip, gaslight, love-bomb, or provoke you. Any access gives them a doorway back into your mind and emotions. 

 3. They feed on your responses. Anger, tears, explanations — even silence — can be “supply” to them. No contact starves them of that fuel and keeps you from being emotionally drained. 

 4. You can’t heal in the same environment you were harmed in. If they’re still in your life, your nervous system never fully calms down. No contact gives you space to rebuild your identity and self-worth outside their distortion field. 

5. Boundaries don’t work with people who don’t respect them. A healthy person respects “please don’t do that.” A narcissist sees a boundary as a challenge — something to test, push, or break.

 6. Contact keeps you in the trauma cycle. Abuse isn’t always constant. It’s a cycle: idealization → devaluation → discard → hoovering. No contact breaks the cycle for good. No contact is not about punishment — it’s about protection. It’s the only way to take back your peace, your energy, and your life.