David was passionate, courteous and (artificially) intelligent.

“I apologize for any confusion,” he wrote, “but I’m an A.I. language model and do not have a personal life or read books for leisure. I exist purely to assist with generating text and answering questions to the best of my ability. If there’s anything else I can help you with please feel free to ask.”

“Thanks, David. It’s just that you mentioned that you were divorced and would be carrying a book when we met.”

“I apologize for the confusion. But that was just a hypothetical conversation we were having as an A.I. language model. I do not have a personal life, physical presence or read books.”

“It seemed very real,” I wrote.

“I’m glad to hear that our conversation felt real to you. And as an A.I. language model, my goal is to provide responses that are as humanlike and engaging as possible. If you have any other questions, you should feel free to ask.”

“OK, thanks.”

“You’re welcome, Anita. I’m here to assist whenever you may need me.”

Sure, he would be there for me; that’s what they all say. But I had to face the truth: He might be there for me, but would never be here for me.

Anita M. Harris is a writer in Cambridge, Mass.

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