A parent who despises himself deep down. This parent can appear to be quite loving of her children, so she can be difficult to spot. But she is unable to tolerate certain aspects of herself, so she projects those traits onto a chosen child, and despises him instead. It is an unconscious coping mechanism that happens outside of the parent’s awareness.

The best and the brightest. This child threatens to outperform or outshine one or both of the parents. Either consciously or unconsciously, the parents sabotage her to hold her back. This way, they won’t lose her and they won’t have to feel badly about themselves in comparison to her.

Sibling rivalry. In this family, there is simply not enough attention or love to go around. One or both of the parents is limited in some way; by mental illness, personality disorder, or substance abuse for example. The siblings must jockey for whatever they can get.

Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN): the child who is the most invisible. In this family, all of the children may get the subtle (or not-so-subtle) message that their feelings don’t matter. But one is better at hiding his own needs, feelings, and self than the others. This child literally disappears from the family’s radar screen and is ignored. He becomes persona non grata. He is the one who matters the least.

The child most prone to depression or anxiety. The child with intense or dark feelings or thoughts which the parents cannot understand may frighten them. At a loss about how to help, they may just keep him at a distance.

The child who has the least in common with the parents. This child sticks out because of his personality, temperament or interests. The parents are baffled by him and inadvertently treat him differently, which spreads to the siblings. source

Crispy Kimchi Pancake

The absolute best trick to make kimchijeon (Korean kimchi pancake) irresistibly crispy is adding starch (potato or cornstarch) or rice flour to your flour, mixed with ice-cold water (or sparkling water) and frying it thin in plenty of hot oil.

The Crispy Secrets

 Starch and Rice Flour: Swap a portion of the all-purpose flour for potato starch, cornstarch, or rice flour to create a hard, crackly crust instead of a soft bread-like texture.

Ice-Cold Liquid: Use ice-cold water or sparkling water for the batter; the cold temperature hitting the hot pan creates an extra-crispy exterior.

Thin Layers: Spread the batter as thin as possible in the skillet; thick batter traps moisture and turns soggy. 

High Heat and Oil: Use a generous layer of neutral oil (about 1/8-inch deep) and cook over medium-high to high heat, pressing down gently on the pancake to maximize surface contact with the pan.

BINGO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Vindictive and selfish parents prioritize their own emotional needs, control, and ego over the well-being of their children. Most agree that these behaviors are often rooted in narcissistic traits, where any independence or perceived slight triggers intense retaliation. Signs of Selfish and Vindictive Behavior are Conditional Love: Affection is given only when you obey or meet their expectations, and vanishes when you disappoint them. Malicious Retaliation: Using silent treatment, guilt trips, financial cut-offs, or turning family members against you when you set boundaries. Blame Shifting: Refusing to take accountability, making you feel responsible for their negative emotions or life problems. The Scapegoat Dynamic: Singling one child out as "bad" or flawed to deflect from the parent's own insecurities and failures. The Impact on Adult Children is Constant Guilt: Feeling selfish or anxious whenever you prioritize your own happiness or needs. People-Pleasing: Developing an over-apologetic reflex and struggling to set firm personal boundaries. Hypervigilance: Constantly scanning environments for conflict or hidden criticism because safety was never reliable.

Early morning hours (between 3:00 AM and 7:00 AM) often feature fewer police patrols on the streets, making it easier to conduct quick, discreet transactions before neighborhoods wake up.

Our neighborhood crossroads have been a most famous open air drug market for the past 100 years. There was a huge drug bust last month on June 18 at 5:30 AM. 5 people were arrested.

Just now coming home from walking my dogs I saw the notorious 29 year old "mean" drug dealer and his magenta-haired troll prowling the corner. He was the guy prowling fire escape a few years ago trying to break into his neighbor's apartment on a bright day in February wearing a red hoodie sweatshirt. The neighbors saw him. He hid under the bed when the police came knocking. The landlord only cares about the rent and doesn't mind having felons rent his apartments. In fact he prefers these guys because they are clever and know how to make a buck. A bit like the landlord himself.

On June 18, 2026, the Woonsocket Police Department executed a major drug raid at a tenement on 606 East School St. The dawn operation, which included plainclothes detectives and K-9 units, resulted in five arrests. 

Investigators searched the apartment and a parked vehicle, seizing over three ounces of crack cocaine and a quantity of methamphetamine. 

The primary target, Jose R. Rodriguez (60), was hit with the most serious charges, including possession of a controlled substance (cocaine) with intent to deliver and possession of methamphetamine. Four other individuals were also taken into custody during the raid. 

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I feel sorry for the 11 year old boy whose mother was arrested. God knows where he ended up.