Today thinking about my siblings and the damage done to them over the decades.  I left home 44 years ago at age 17. They stayed and had more abuse heaped on them. There continues to be a desire to redeem my narcissistic parents.

When I see how my siblings are incapable of writing a simple letter informing me about their lives, how I need to drag it out of them with question after question, I realize they are still caught trying to please and evade judgement by the deceased evil monsters who raised them.

Unless there is a desire for truth and the patience and trust to reexamine the lies and abuse they were fed they will remain forever stunted and stuck. It's tragic. What I see is control-freak behavior and mistrust towards any professionals who could help them.

I am afraid of how much of the familial abuse and abandonment has been passed down to the next generation who are now adults trying to find their way in the world.

  Understanding the Children of a Narcissist