Many parents overstep the personal boundaries of their children in various ways: by inappropriately touching them, going through their belongings, reading their mail, and requiring them to perform for friends and relatives. This type of parental intrusiveness seriously limits children’s personal freedom and autonomy. Many mothers and fathers speak for their children, take over their productions as their own, brag excessively about their accomplishments, and attempt to live vicariously through them.

source http://www.psychalive.org/the-difference-between-emotional-hunger-and-real-love-by-robert-firestone-ph-d/

another good article

https://www.psychalive.org/why-are-people-afraid-to-grow-up/