they are revealing who they are to you, you get to choose what you do next.

 “So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, —if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what you do next.”
― Mel Robbins, The Let Them Theory