nar·cis·sism /ˈnärsəˌsizəm/ Learn to pronounce noun noun: narcissism excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's physical appearance. h Similar: vanity self-love self-admiration self-adulation self-absorption self-obsession conceit self-conceit self-centeredness self-regard egotism egoism egocentricity egomania h Opposite: modesty diffidence Psychology selfishness, involving a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration, as characterizing a personality type. Psychoanalysis self-centeredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder.
"Believe it or not, eating breakfast can help you sleep. It's as
simple as this; if you don't have breakfast, your body believes it is
living in famine and produces stress hormones that are not conducive to
restful sleep. But by eating breakfast, you're letting your body know
there is enough food and you are living in safety, which in turn
switches on your sleep/energy systems.
Nothing can break the mood of a piece of writing like bad dialogue. My students are miserable when they are reading an otherwise terrific story to the class and then hit a patch of dialogue that is so purple and expositional that it reads like something from a childhood play by the Gabor sisters. ... I can see the surprise on my students' faces, because the dialogue looked okay on paper, yet now it sounds as if it were poorly translated from their native Hindi.
Lady
Grey tea is a trademarked variation on Earl Grey tea. Like Earl Grey,
it is a black tea flavoured with bergamot essential oil. ... Lady Grey differs from Earl Grey in that it contains additional lemon peel and orange peel.
At least that's the position taken by Thomas Reboullet, Long Reach High
School senior, varsity ice hockey player and co-founder of Thomas
Waffles, a food truck business he started with his father, pastry chef
Thierry; and sister, Julie, an eighth-grader at Mayfield Woods Middle
School.
The family sells waffles out of a truck parked in front of Kendall
Hardware in Clarksville every Saturday, from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Reboullet, 17, came up with the idea earlier this year, when he decided
he wanted to start a project that could raise some money for college.
He pitched the food truck plan to his dad, who was immediately on board.
Thomas Reboullet chose a food truck business model because it was
something he hadn't seen much of in Howard County. While food trucks are
exploding in popularity in cities like Baltimore; Washington, D.C.; and
New York, they are just starting to take hold in the suburbs. (See
accompanying article.)
"There's really nothing like that in Howard County, so I wanted to do something unique," Reboullet said.
He cited lower costs and the flexibility to change locations as other benefits.
Once the family had their goal in mind, the next steps were to find a truck and a suitable location.
Thierry Reboullet found a new truck on the Internet, and he and a
neighbor drove 16 hours one way to buy it, then drove it back home to
Maryland. Reboullet and his son then outfitted the truck to fit their
needs.
As for the location, while driving by Kendall Hardware one day, the
family noticed a produce stand in the parking lot. They approached owner
Steve Kendall to see if they might be able to sell their waffles out
front, too.
Kendall agreed to let them use a spot in his parking lot, free of charge.
"He's just a local guy in business for the right reasons," he said of
Thierry Reboullet. "It's a neat story, and his product is great."
Reboullet, a pastry chef with 30 years of experience, trained in France
before moving to the United States to work for French bakery and
restaurant La Madeleine. He is originally from Saint-Félicien, a town in
the south of France, but has lived in this country for the past two
decades.
Thomas Reboullet said his father's influence inspired him to be a chef himself.
"Ever since I was little, I've always watched him in the kitchen.
That's what gave me the idea to do this," he said. "With all his skill
sets, I knew we could be successful with food."
That's not to say there haven't been some hurdles along the way.
In the beginning, the waffle batter would sometimes overflow, oozing out the sides of the waffle iron.
"We had to tweak the recipe a bit" to get it right, Reboullet said.
But since opening May 27, the Reboullets seem to have gotten the hang
of things. They're now used to handling the long lines that appear
during the breakfast rush Saturday mornings.
Sweet and savory
On a recent clear November day, they served up waffle pops and
breakfast sandwiches to a line of hungry people, chatting with customers
as they cooked and took orders. Thierry Reboullet offered samples of
the sweet liege waffle to a customer who had only tried the truck's
other offerings.
The waffles the Reboullets serve are more Belgian-style than Eggo. The
liege waffle, lightly blackened on the bottom by the iron, has pearl
sugar crystals hiding on the inside that give it a slightly crunchy
texture. It can be eaten plain or with a choice of toppings that include
fresh raspberries, strawberries, blueberries, bananas, maple syrup and
Nutella.
The Thomas waffle is also sweet, and comes with powdered sugar and the
same topping options. Waffle pops are perched atop a stick and come
covered with dark or white chocolate.
The truck has other savory offerings, as well, like the egg, bacon,
sausage and cheese sandwich (or any combination of those ingredients),
served on the Thomas waffle. In keeping with the Reboullets' French
heritage, they round out the menu with a variety of quiches.
And the Reboullets have hopes of further expanding their food
offerings. Thierry Reboullet said they are working with the county
Health Department to get approval to serve chicken with their waffles,
and he'd like to sell waffles topped with ice cream in the summer
months.
One thing you won't ever see on the menu, though, are waffles topped
with fried chicken, a Southern classic gaining popularity at some
comfort-food joints. Reboullet said he wants to keep the menu on the
healthy side, so he doesn't plan on doing any deep frying. Besides,
"what we want to do is stay unique," he said.
Reboullet also says he wants to change the American conception that
waffles are exclusively breakfast food. "[In Europe], we eat waffles all
day," he said.
Next fall, Thomas Reboullet will leave the food truck behind to go off
to college, hopefully to study food science at the University of Maine,
his priority high school. After earning his degree, he hopes to study
pastry in France like his father did. But he said he will help with the
truck over breaks, and that his father and sister will continue to run
it while he's gone.
"I think I'm going to miss him. I won't have anyone to annoy anymore," Julie joked.
In the meantime, the family's focused on growing their business.
Thierry Reboullet said he's started to notice regular customers coming
back every other week or so.
Thomas Reboullet said he will consider moving the truck to other
locations, as well. "We'll take the truck anywhere else," he said.
"We've been staying here because we need to build up customers."
'Wow is the word'
One regular is Jim Hopkins, a floor manager at Kendall Hardware.
Hopkins said he has stopped by the truck every weekend since it opened.
His usual order is the breakfast sandwich.
"The egg is what makes it," he said. "You take a bite out of that sandwich, the egg runs out of it — ooh baby!"
"It sure beats the heck out of going to McDonalds," he added.
Barry Fields and his children were newcomers to the Reboullets' waffle truck.
Fields ordered two plain liege waffles for Talia, 7; and Avi, 3, and took a taste for himself.
"Wow is the word," Fields said, before ordering another. "I neglected myself!" he explained.
Carol Horton, of Clarksville; and Craig Bilenki, of Baltimore, came
back after having stopped at Thomas Waffles twice the Saturday before.
Bilenki had a waffle breakfast sandwich on the couple's way to the
Howard County Fairgrounds for a craft show, and decided to get another
on his way back home.
"It's unusual," Horton said of the waffle truck. "We've seen the
produce stands before, but this is the first time I've seen a waffle
stand."
"Everybody loves waffles," she added, "but they're kind of a pain to make at home."
"I want to come every week now," Bilenki said. "This is great."
Would he consider eating the waffles other than for breakfast?
"Absolutely."
Thomas Waffles is open on Saturdays, year-round. For more information, check their twitter account at twitter.com/thomaswaffles.
UPDATE: www.tandjwaffles.com T & J Waffles 9855 K Washington Blvd N Laurel MD 20723 Office: (240) 280-2050 - (443) 838-9144 Fax: (240) 280-2675 Email: TandJWaffles@gmail.com On line Order : tandjwafflesllc.square.site Thomas Reboullet. Pastry chef. University of Maine alumni. Co founder of T&J waffles located in the USA #tandjwaffles www.tandjwaffles.com
I
haven’t had a day off in 20 months. There are people out
there—particularly the nurses and physicians and respiratory
therapists—who are doing the same thing, only in the trenches. So I’m
not complaining. But it is thoroughly unusual to be working 15 hours a
day at minimum, 20 months in a row.
Two
years ago, [my job involved] meeting with my laboratory, making rounds,
seeing patients, going to conferences, traveling to give lectures,
meeting with scientists, writing papers, occasionally being in the
media, always having time for a 4-mile run in the middle of the day, and
going out occasionally to dinner with my wife. It was a life that was
intense, busy, productive, diversified. Today, it’s almost
unidimensional. Sunday is no different from Thursday.
Because of
the threats on my life and the harassment, I have special agents who are
always with me, which is ridiculous. They drive me 5 miles, from my
home to my office. I have a once-a-week [Zoom meeting] with the
president’s cabinet. And once a week we meet with the governors to
answer their questions. Jeff Zients, coordinator of the COVID
response—I’m on the phone with him maybe two or three times a day. I do
about four or five press things a day, and Instagrams and TikToks and
things, always trying to get the message out. Oh, and I meet with the
president once a week in person.
If you’ve accomplished what you
need in the first eight minutes of a meeting, it’s on to the next thing.
People love that because they know that I focus like a laser when I’m
with them. My motto has always been “Precision of thought and economy of
expression.” Know what you’re talking about, know what your problem is,
know what your question is.
The
only way to counter misinformation and disinformation is to provide
correct information, but the volume of misinformation that’s out there
is stunning. So you have to be aware of and respond to the radical
nutcases who are constantly assailing you. It’s draining. They have a
field day with me, because the easiest way to confuse the public is to
try and discredit the people who are telling the truth.
During the
week, I might get home and go for a late-night walk with my wife,
quickly eat—it takes me about 12 minutes to eat. In the beginning [of
the pandemic], I would forget to eat or drink. When your adrenaline is
up so much, you don’t get hungry. [Then my wife], she’s a very
reasonable person, she said, “You’ve got to eat. It’s not going to be
over in a couple of weeks.” And I listened to her.
Time he wakes up
5 a.m.
First thing he does in the morning
“Shave,
shower, and go to my email, because overnight emails will be coming in
from other countries. I average about a couple thousand emails a day.”
How his routine has changed over the past 18 months
“I
don’t travel whatsoever anymore. I’ve been on two trips, both with the
First Lady, to promote vaccination. That would be unimaginable for me
two years ago. In a 20-month period, I would have done maybe six
international trips and 10 or 15 to San Francisco, Seattle, L.A., Miami,
Boston, New York.”
What he does with 15 minutes of free time
“This
sounds schmaltzy, but just spend downtime with my wife. Go for a walk,
sit [on the back deck] and have a beer. I used to like to go to
restaurants. I haven’t been to one in 20 months.”
How he keeps his team from feeling burned out
“Since
the volume [of work] has increased so much, I brought in people who are
in other divisions that are not working as hard because the focus is so
much on COVID. I really care about my senior staff, because they’re the
ones that have to go back and develop vaccines. I don’t think people
fully appreciate that the fundamental research for the [COVID] vaccines
came out of my group here. I don’t want to wear out those people.”
Last thing he does at night
“Meetings end sometimes at 8, 9, 10 o’clock at night. Then you keep doing [emails] until you can’t do them anymore.”
History is one way of telling stories, just like myth,
fiction, or oral storytelling. But over the last hundred years, history
has preempted the other forms of storytelling because of its claim to
absolute, objective truth. Trying to be scientists, historians stood
outside of history and told the story of how it was. All that has
changed radically over the last twenty years. Historians now laugh at
the pretense of objective truth. They agree that every age has its own
history, and if there is any objective truth, we can’t reach it with
words. History is not a science, it’s an art.
When I was five years old and in first grade, I used the pay phone at school to call home. The phone booth was a small closet across the hall from the principal's office. It was also the lost and found. When I made the call I took off my coat and I must've placed it behind me on the shelf. After the call I ran outside to wait for my mother, catching a lift home, forgetting my coat. And when I returned the next day my hounds-tooth coat had vanished. My mother never forgave me.
She never forgave me for getting an ink stain on the wooden living room table (at the same age), and she never forgave me for growing breasts and having long ringlets.
But back to the coat.
When I was 21 I was poor and freezing and living alone in Providence RI. I wore converse high tops and I had lost my winter coat in a fire that my North Carolina landlord had set. It had been my brother's winter coat that I inherited. It was down filled and Kelly-green and you could climb the coldest mountain in it.
All my clothes burned in the fire. People in the community heard about the fire and they gave me bags of clothes. But my mother refused to get me a winter coat. So, back in RI, I found a big vintage wool coat at the local thrift store. It was from the 1940's and built with a zippered wool lining and the exterior made of tweed. I rode around on my 3 speed Armstrong bicycle wearing it. 40 years later, I still have it. My husband looks amazing in it. It fits him perfectly.
But what I wanted to say is my mother kept a running tab, a checklist of demerits and I realize now that this was anything but love.
Love your children (and your friends and neighbors) and don't keep a running tab. They are not on earth to make you happy. As Gibran said...Your children come through you but do not belong to you.
Peace,
Emily
“Your children are not your children. They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness. For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.”
Armando Rafael for The New York Times. Food Stylist: Rebecca Jurkevich.
Bromelain, the group of enzymes in fresh pineapple,
is excellent at breaking down the connective tissues in thick, fibrous
chicken breasts. In this simple marinade, grated pineapple completely
alters the texture of the breast meat, resulting in something that’s
akin to luscious dark meat. Briefly marinating here is important: Leave
it too long and the chicken will fall apart during cooking, becoming
shreddy and a little gluey. Fifteen minutes is the sweet spot. The
accompanying pineapple salsa is a bright topping for the juicy morsels
of aromatic chicken and rice.
In a large bowl, stir together the brown sugar, rice
vinegar, soy sauce, fish sauce, 2 tablespoons olive oil, salt, garlic
powder, ground cayenne and black pepper. Transfer 1 tablespoon of this
marinade mixture to a separate medium bowl and add the diced pineapple,
red onion and cilantro. This is your salsa; toss until well mixed and
set aside.
Add the grated pineapple and its juices to the
marinade mixture in the large bowl, then add the chicken and toss to
coat. Set aside to marinate at room temperature for 15 minutes (and no
longer).
Once the chicken is done marinating, heat a large
nonstick skillet over medium-high and add enough olive oil to lightly
coat the bottom of the pan. Add the chicken pieces, leaving any marinade
behind, in a single layer so that they don’t touch and let cook until
the bottoms are browned, 2 to 3 minutes. Continue cooking, stirring
occasionally, until browned on all sides and no longer pink on the
inside, 4 to 5 minutes more.
Serve the chicken over rice and top with the reserved pineapple salsa.
So what's with guys not dressing for the 38 degree weather? Then complaining to me. Did people forget New England gets cold. We're supposed to dress for it and wear scarves hats gloves and thermals. Not a t-shirt and thin sweatshirt. Is it men in denial? Is it suburban culture of hot cars hot houses. WTF? My neighbors heat up their cars for an hour burning a hole in the ozone, before getting in. Another friend jumps in the icy pond every day and wears sandals and complains about the cold and his circulation. I don't get it. I tell them, when you dress for the weather it's the best. Cold air is nature's air conditioning.
Leftover homemade semolina sourdough pizza dough made into bread sliced and made into toast with Hellmann's mayo+chipotle sauce holy shit spicy melba toast! a hot wish sandwich a hot witch sandwich
NORTH
KINGSTOWN, R.I. — Former student-athletes at North Kingstown High
School say that the body fat tests conducted by longtime basketball
coach Aaron Thomas were an uncomfortable open secret that goes back more
than 20 years.
Even now, they remember his question: “Are you shy, or not shy?”
That
meant Thomas, 54, wanted the teenage boys to go to a small janitor’s
closet or the little AV room attached to his office. There, alone with
Thomas, they would have to remove their clothes and underwear so Thomas
could do a “body fat test,” using skinfold calipers to pinch and explore
the skin near their scrotum, their groin, and their buttocks, some of
Thomas’ former players told The Boston Globe in multiple interviews over
the past several months. Some said he would also ask them to do
stretches or “duck walks” while naked. One alleged that Thomas did a
“hernia check.”
Thomas
resigned from North Kingstown High in June, and started working as a
social studies teacher at the Monsignor Clarke School in South Kingstown
in the fall. On Friday, Monsignor Clarke emailed parents to say that
Thomas had been placed on paid administrative leave, WPRI-TV reported.
“The
school received a complaint that one of our recently hired middle
school teachers allegedly acted inappropriately while previously
employed at a different, public school,” the email read.
Attorney
General Peter Neronha’s office confirmed Friday that they are
investigating the case. No criminal charges have yet been brought
against Thomas, who did not respond to requests for comment from the
Globe.
There
was a sense that one was not allowed to say no to Thomas, said a former
boys’ basketball player, who called the body fat tests “creepy and
perverted.” (The Globe does not publicly identify alleged victims of
possible sexual assault without their permission.)
“It
was uncomfortable and very unnecessary, and most of us did it. He gave
us an option, and if you didn’t do it or not it was going to be noted.
If you didn’t do it, you didn’t care about the team,” said the former
player, who was on the team in the early 2000s. “No other sport was
doing it. ... You didn’t need to be naked in a room alone with a man.”
Michael
F. Kieloch, the director of communications and public relations at the
Diocese of Providence, on Saturday told the Globe that North Kingstown
school officials didn’t tell Monsignor Clarke School or the Diocese
about the allegations against Thomas.
Thomas
had been a basketball coach at the 1,300-student public school in North
Kingstown more than 20 years, where he taught social studies and video
education. He and his students also would do work for the Rhode Island
Interscholastic League.
The
principal at North Kingstown High School had given Monsignor Clarke a
“positive, professional” referral for Thomas, Kieloch said. “His
background checks were clear, his references were positive, we had no
knowledge there was any allegations [against] Mr. Thomas at all before
hiring him,” he said.
Kieloch
said the school found out about the allegations when WPRI-TV called
them about the investigation on Thursday. The Diocese immediately placed
Thomas on paid leave, he said.
The school wouldn’t have hired Thomas if they had known about the allegations, Kieloch said.
But
another of Thomas’ alleged victims told the Boston Globe that he and
another man had contacted the Diocese and Monsignor Clarke’s
administrators about Thomas several weeks ago, when they found out that
Thomas had been hired to work there. He said they never heard back.
He
said he was 14 in the early 2000s when Thomas tapped him on the
shoulder and invited him into a private room at the school for his first
body fat test. He said that Thomas asked him the same question that the
older boys had warned him about: “Are you shy, or not shy?”
“At the time I’m thinking, ‘All right, everyone else is doing it,’” the man said. “I guess this is what they do.”
He
said that he first spoke to North Kingstown police in 2018, deciding to
come forward after seeing the similarities between Thomas’ behavior and
that of Larry Nassar, the former USA Gymnastics team doctor who
sexually abused hundreds of girls and women.
“It
wasn’t just basketball players, it was all the male athletes,” the man
told the Globe on Saturday. “Hundreds of them were fat tested.”
In
mid-February 2021, yet another alleged victim contacted North Kingstown
School Department Assistant Superintendent Denise Mancieri about
Thomas, according to an email shared with the Globe.
“Every
month for my entire time at NKHS, Thomas brought me into his office
(protected by CCTV) and asked me to get naked, then touched me all over
my body,” the man wrote. “He did this to dozens if not hundreds of boys
over a ~10 year period to my knowledge. ... I beg you to question him
about this ‘fat testing’ regime and what purpose it served.”
He
wrote that he had been 13 at the time, and that the experiences had
left him with psychiatric problems. “This is an open secret in my corner
of NK,” the North Kingstown man added. “I assumed I was weak because so
many people ‘fat tested’ and they don’t seem to struggle with it like I
have.”
Mancieri
responded, saying she would share the email with Superintendent Phil
Auger, and asked for the names of other athletes who may also have
complaints.
Around
that same time in February, Thomas was focused on his basketball team,
which was on its way to the playoffs. “It’s all about the relationships
you build, it’s not just basketball. It’s other things too,” he said on a
coaches roundtable episode of The Roudy Runback podcast
on Feb. 21. “They know I put a lot of time into scouting and watching
games and preparing, and they expect that my effort will be just as hard
as the effort I ask them to put on the court. I think that goes a long
way in coaching, that you have that kind of relationship between the
coach and the players.”
Three
days later, the school committee voted unanimously on the
superintendent’s recommendation to terminate a tenured teacher, who was
Thomas. Another coach substituted for Thomas at the basketball playoffs
two days later; the local media was told
that Thomas was out with an “undisclosed medical issue.” Thomas was on
paid leave until he quietly left his $93,000 salaried job in June. His
resignation ended the North Kingstown School Department’s investigation
into his conduct, Auger said in a statement on Saturday.
The
North Kingstown school department hired Matthew T. Oliverio, a North
Kingstown labor and employment lawyer with experience as a municipal
solicitor, to investigate claims by the former students.
North
Kingstown police detectives interviewed Thomas’ former players and took
statements about the fat testing program, according to former
student-athletes who have been contacted by the police. (North Kingstown
Police declined to comment for this article.) One of the alleged
victims told the Globe that police told them there were no criminal
charges.
The
state Department of Education told the Globe this summer that it had no
record of complaints against Thomas. So one of the victims, who had
spoken to police in 2018, decided to make those complaints more public
by launching the @ShyorNot? Twitter account, which he shared with the
Globe.
Starting
at 14 years of age, I was asked to get naked, alone with Aaron Thomas,
in a closet every quarter for four straight years. I performed a series
of stretches under the guise of a Body fat testing program. Many other
boys were part of this “program”. It spanned decades.
He told the Globe that he wanted others to know that they weren’t alone.
“The more people that come forward, the less alone you feel, and the greater the chances of making positive change,” he said.
The man said he also wants his former hometown to face this “open secret” that has been kept by many of its boys for years.
“Something
is broken, really broken in North Kingstown, and it needs to be fixed,”
he said. “And it doesn’t get fixed until the community understands the
process.”
Mark Arsenault of the Globe staff contributed to this report.
Mr. Broadwater, in an interview with The
New York Times on Tuesday, said he was “relieved and grateful” for Ms.
Sebold’s apology.
“It took a lot of
courage, and I guess she’s brave and weathering through the storm like I
am,” he said. “To make that statement, it’s a strong thing for her to
do, understanding that she was a victim and I was a victim too.”
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