Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where someone makes another person question their own reality, memories, or sanity, causing confusion and dependence, often through persistent lying, denying events, minimizing feelings, or twisting facts, originating from the play

Gas Light and used in abusive relationships, workplaces, and politics to gain control. Signs include constant self-doubt, feeling crazy, always apologizing, and isolating oneself, with responses involving documenting reality, seeking support from trusted sources, and disengaging from the manipulation. 

What it is

• A tactic to gain power by distorting someone's sense of reality.
• A pattern of behavior, not a single event, that erodes a victim's self-trust.
• Seen in intimate relationships, families, workplaces, and politics.

Common Gaslighting Tactics & Phrases

• Lying & Denial: "That never happened," "I never said that".
• Countering: "You're imagining things," "You're too sensitive," "You're overreacting".
• Withholding/Diverting: Pretending not to understand, changing the subject.
• Trivializing: Minimizing your feelings or concerns.
• Blocking/Forgetting: Claiming to forget things to avoid responsibility.

Signs You Might Be Gaslighted

• Constantly second-guessing your perceptions, memories, or sanity.
• Feeling confused, inadequate, or like you're "going crazy".
• Frequent apologies for things that aren't your fault.
• Withholding information from others to avoid conflict or confusion.
• Feeling isolated, alone, and powerless. 

How to Respond

• Recognize it: Understand it's a form of abuse, not your fault.
• Document Reality: Keep a journal or records (texts, emails) to verify events.
• Seek Outside Support: Talk to trusted friends, family, or a therapist for an objective view.
• Set Boundaries: Disengage from arguments using short, factual statements; disengage entirely if feeling attacked.
• Prioritize Safety: If in an abusive relationship, seek help from domestic violence resources to leave safely.