Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Compassionate Parenting

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201709/compassionate-parenting

Here are the general skills of compassionate parenting and discipline.

Listen to your children. (In all stages of development, children complain that their parents yell too much and listen too little.)
As much as possible, let solutions to their problems come from the children. (As they mature, your job is to give fewer answers and ask more questions that lead them to solutions.)
Choose toys that have something beneath the surface to deepen their interest. (Young children cannot sustain interest for long, but they can develop awareness that interest feels better when there's something beneath the surface.)
Understand that change stimulates emotion. (You and your children will have emotional responses to change, irrespective of the content. Negative emotions are more likely to occur during transitions - when you want them to stop doing one thing and start doing another. Make transitions as smooth as possible.)
Respond to positive emotions as well as negative. (Attention to expressions of interest and enjoyment are opportunities to reinforce positive emotional response.)
Openly express affection to your children and to other adults in the family.
Enjoy them. (Fun strengthens bonds.)
Learn from them. (Their brains are miracles of biological development, unparalleled in the known universe.)

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