'If I'm authentic, I won't be loved anymore. If I am not loved, I won't survive.' This is the source of all pathology whether it's physical or mental.

Dr. Gabor Mate Quotes on Trauma and Healing.

"We were hurt in relationship, which means we are going to heal in relationship. Relationships can be the ground for healing when approached properly."

"All our dysfunctions. our relationship problems, the pain that we carry, the resentment that we harbor, the anger that we generate at our partners originates in early childhood trauma."

“Trauma isn't what happens to you, it is what happens inside you."

"We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world."

"In the real world there is no nature vs nurture argument, only an infinitely complex and moment by moment interaction between genetic and environmental effects."

"I can pretty much tell you from the way they speak and feel about themselves and the health conditions they have, the type of childhood they had."

"Not why the addiction but why the pain."

"Collect them before you direct them"

"Autonomy is impossible as long as one is driven  by anything."

"No society can understand itself without looking at it's shadow side.”

“What we call the personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do no reflect our true self at all but the lose of it."

"While nervous tension may be a component of stress, one can be stressed without feeling tension."

"'If I'm authentic, I won't be loved anymore. If I am not loved, I won't survive.' This is the source of all pathology whether  it's physical or mental."

"Addiction floods in where Self-knowledge and therefore divine knowledge- are missing. To fill the unendurable void, we become attached to things of the world that cannot possibly be compensate for the loss of who we are."

"Everything that is 'wrong' with you began as a survival mechanism in childhood."

"It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addiction finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or addictive behavior.”