Civility: Obeying the Unenforceable

“Civility, it is said, means obeying the unenforceable.”
― Ellen Goodman

“In journalism, there has always been a tension between getting it first and getting it right.”
― Ellen Goodman

“The things we hate about ourselves aren't more real than things we like about ourselves.”
― Ellen Goodman

“We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness. ”
― Ellen Goodman

“There’s a trick to the 'graceful exit.' It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, or a relationship is over — and let it go. It means leaving what’s over without denying its validity or its past importance to our lives. It involves a sense of future, a belief that every exit line is an entry, that we are moving up, rather than out.”
― Ellen Goodman

“Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work and driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for - in order to get to the job you need to pay for the clothes and the car, and the house you leave vacant all day so you can afford to live in it.”
― Ellen Goodman

“We spend January 1st walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives...not looking for flaws, but for potential.”
― Ellen Goodman

“I have never been especially impressed by the heroics of people convinced they are about to change the world. I am more awed by those who struggle to make one small difference.”
― Ellen Goodman

“Most people do not consider dawn to be an attractive experience--unless they are still up.”
― Ellen Goodman

“If women can sleep their way to the top, how come they aren't there?”
― Ellen Goodman

“..what the next generation will value most is not what we owned, but the evidence of who we were and the tales of how we lived. In the end, it's the family stories that are worth the storage.”
― Ellen Goodman

“The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children ourweigh our fears”
― Ellen Goodman

“When you live alone, you can be sure that the person who squeezed the toothpaste tube in the middle wasn't committing a hostile act.”
― Ellen Goodman, Close to Home

“Once upon a time we were just plain people. But that was before we began having relationships with mechanical systems. Get involved with a machine and sooner or later you are reduced to a factor.”
― Ellen Goodman