Isaiah Frizzelle

“How someone treats you is a reflection of them not you.” And that goes both ways.

Giving people more of what they don’t value decreases its overall worth. Sometimes, the lesson for both parties is to recognize its importance.

There’s a lot of talk around this and There can be many factors for this phenomenon so let’s consider a few:

Sometimes it can be a perceived level of superiority-People may think they are better than you so what you offer doesn’t measure.

Sometimes it can be a perceived level of inferiority- people may feel the need to belittle you because they feel they don’t measure.

It can be a fragmented parental dynamic at play that shows up in their other relationships whether it be entitlement, enmeshment, or abandonment altogether.

****But the wondering of all the “why(s)?” Is not your work.

People may overlook who you are or the good offered precisely because it is abundant, and you might not see your own worth because you continue to give generously despite receiving less.

At some point, we have to recognize our agency to choose the relationships we cultivate, whether professional or interpersonal, especially when we are not being valued.

So let the question not be about what they do, but instead, what are you willing to do about it ? And are you someone who models the behavior of giving more where they are treated less?

Leave people to the things they deem important so you can invest time in who and what reflects back the same.

“Eventually people will start to treat you how they treat everyone else in their lives”- @nedratawwab

“Worst move ever-mismanaging a real one” @seasoned_dialogue